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    A life thrown into turmoil by $100 donation for Prop. 8 - Los Angeles Times

    Margie Christoffersen didn't make it very far into our conversation before she cracked. Chest heaving, tears streaming, she reached for her husband Wayne's hand and then mine, squeezing as if she'd never let go.

    "I've almost had a nervous breakdown. It's been the worst thing that's ever happened to me," she sobbed as curious patrons at a Farmers Market coffee shop looked on, wondering what calamity had visited this poor woman who's an honest 6 feet tall, with hair as blond as the sun.

    Well, Christoffersen was a manager at El Coyote, the Beverly Boulevard landmark restaurant that's always had throngs of customers waiting to get inside. Many of them were gay, and Christoffersen, a devout Mormon, donated $100 in support of Proposition 8, the successful November ballot initiative that banned gay marriage.

    She never advertised her politics or religion in the restaurant, but last month her donation showed up on lists of "for" and "against" donors. And El Coyote became a target.

    A boycott was organized on the Internet, with activists trashing El Coyote on restaurant review sites. Then came throngs of protesters, some of them shouting "shame on you" at customers. The police arrived in riot gear one night to quell the angry mob.

    The mob left, but so did the customers.

    Sections of the restaurant have been closed, a manager told me Friday during a very quiet lunch hour. Some of the 89 employees, many of them gay, have had their hours cut and layoffs are looming. And Christoffersen, who has taken a voluntary leave of absence, is wondering whether she'll ever again be able to work at the landmark restaurant, which opened in 1931 (at 1st and La Brea) and is owned by her 92-year-old mother.

    "It's been so hard," she said, breaking down again.

    A lot of customers saw Christoffersen as the face of the restaurant. She was the hostess who roamed from table to table with a pitcher of water, refilling glasses and schmoozing with friends.

    Christoffersen, raised Mormon by her late father, told me she has no problem with gay people.

    "I love them like everybody else."

    But she supports her church's position that marriage is between a man and a woman.

    I, on the other hand, opposed Prop. 8. And as I wrote more than once, I think organized Christian religion reached new levels of hypocrisy in using the Bible to preach discrimination and promote the initiative.

    As for the Mormons, I have trouble taking any cues on social mores from a group whose founder and early leaders believed they were acting on directives from on high when they took enough wives -- many in their teens -- to fill every booth in the cavernous El Coyote.

    But I didn't like what I was hearing about the vilification of Margie Christoffersen and others in California being targeted for the crime of voting their conscience.

    "I agree with you on this," said Fred Karger. On his Californians Against Hate website, Karger has been outing Prop. 8 supporters, but he thinks Christoffersen's small personal donation didn't warrant such a backlash against El Coyote. Karger also spoke out against the resignation of a Sacramento theater director who gave $1,000 to Yes on 8 and happens to be Mormon.

    The focus should be on the Mormon Church, Karger said, and on people and businesses that gave hundreds of thousands of dollars to Yes on 8. He said he doesn't intend to go back to El Coyote, but he's not supporting an organized boycott.

    Wayne Christoffersen, who is also a manager at El Coyote, is not a Mormon, and he said he doesn't care who marries whom. But he doesn't think it's right that he and other employees at the restaurant are seeing their livelihoods threatened. Should Apple be boycotted by Yes on 8 people, he asked, simply because the computer company donated $100,000 to the No on 8 campaign?

    El Coyote has never been known for gourmet cuisine. But the warm, kitschy vibe and cool patio scene have always been a hit with customers who were willing to wait in long lines under the distinctive neon sign.

    Now business is off about 30%, Wayne said. Margie wants to blame it on the economy, because she can't deal with the alternative. But Wayne insisted the low-priced restaurant is largely recession-proof, and it's the controversy that has stemmed the flow of margaritas.

    Margie tried to smooth things over last month by inviting gay clients to a free lunch to talk it over, but she left in tears when asked if she would write a check to the group challenging Prop. 8.

    She blubbered all over again as she thought back on the last month. She has been a nightly fixture at El Coyote for two decades, walking to work from her home just a few doors away. It's been her life, she said. And she can't stand that it's been taken away.

    Even if she goes back to work, Wayne said, "she will never, ever be back here on a Thursday night."

    Thursdays, as tradition had it, the place was mobbed with gay customers.

    I had lunch at El Coyote on Thursday and the place was quiet, most tables empty. Margie was off in a dark corner of the restaurant -- at the table where Sharon Tate had her last meal -- exchanging Christmas presents with friends and her mother. I sat on the patio with Wayne and two other El Coyote managers -- Arnoldo Archila and Bill Schoeppner -- who happen to be gay.

    "We always joked around with Margie," said Schoeppner, who's been on the job 26 years. "I'm a Democrat and voted for Obama; she probably voted for McCain -- so what? If she were a bigot or a homophobe, you wouldn't have had all these gay people" working at the restaurant or eating at it.

    Besides, the donation was personal. "She didn't cut a check from the restaurant," added Archila, a 28-year employee. "The restaurant didn't have anything to do with it."

    Archila said he and other employees voted no on Prop. 8 and gave money to the legal challenge. As someone who came to the U.S. 30 years ago from El Salvador, Archila said, he's always cherished this country's right of free speech and the diversity of opinion.

    "You can express yourself as a citizen," said Archila. "Not everyone has to believe the same things."

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    well i don't agree with the violence but i'm glad she's being boycotted and that anti-prop 8 people are attacking bigots where it hurts most - their pocketbooks.

    and something tells me apple wouldn't suffer very much if all the bigots started boycotting them.
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    Aw, you love your gays like anybody else, you just dont think they should be given equality!

    You POOR thing! It's all so cruel, isn't it?

    Wah. You helped strip people of their rights and now you're crying cuz they don't like you?

    *bafflement*

    How can people NOT expect that? You think the gays will be happy with you?
    I am from the American CIA and I have a radio in my head. I am going to kill you.

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    What does this lady think happened to the businesses boycotted in the civil rights movement? That business went along swimmingly and then they suddenly changed their minds on their policy?

    The Mormon church expects their membership to always hem and toe their line. And her brains are in agreement with what they tell their members. I don't feel sorry for her.

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    it's hilarious when bigots feel like the victim because their jesus-shield isn't working anymore
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    I don't feel sorry at all for her. She made a decision based on her beliefs and now her ex-patrons are making the decision not to go there because of their beliefs. Tit for tat.
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    Yeah, it's pretty hard to dine around people that revolting.

    "I don't understand what the big deal is, it's just my beliefs!"

    Yeah, well your "beliefs" cost a lot of people a whole shitload of civil rights. Up yours, bitch.
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    Is it wrong that I pictured her blubbering, snot-covered face when I read this.... and smiled?








    Yes, it's probably very wrong.

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    What she should be asking herself is "Is this God's way of telling me I was mistaken?". I would take this opportunity to examine why I did it & if the Mormon church had led me away from God's wishes instead of closer.Did He not say "Love thy neighbor as yourself"? And is contributing to the misery of other people ,who only want acceptance ,a slap at one's own soul? I should think any person who truly believes would see the real Light pretty quickly.
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    There is something wrong with her thinking, and her heart, if she thinks that she is somehow being accepting and tolerant by letting gay people eat at her restaurant and put money in her pocket, while donating money to take away their civil rights.

    Sadly, she just doesn't get it and unfortunately, I don't this boycott is going to make her somehow miraculously change her mind and her heart.

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