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    He’s labeled a sex offender — for sleeping with his own wife

    They had sex when she was underage; now he’s on public registry with pedophiles

    By Scott Stump TODAY.com contributor

    updated 7/27/2011 9:38:10 AM ET


    When Frank Rodriguez and his future wife first starting having sex, they considered themselves just two of millions of teenagers who were in love.

    However, their love was against the law in Texas, so Rodriguez soon joined a more exclusive group, one in which no one seeks membership: He became one of more than 650,000 registered sex offenders in the United States.

    And today, after 15 years and four daughters with his high school sweetheart, the 34-year-old suburban father still wears the modern-day equivalent of the Scarlet Letter. Friends, neighbors or parents in his hometown of Caldwell, Texas, can go online to view the public sex offender registry and see his name alongside those of rapists, child molesters and child pornographers. His teenage love for his future wife, Nikki, is classified in a much less romantic way — sexual assault of a child.

    When Frank and Nikki slept together as teens, he was unaware it would haunt him well into adulthood. “I figured I would go through a probation period [of a] few years,’’ Frank told Matt Lauer in a TODAY interview Wednesday. “I had no idea it would follow me for the rest of my life.’’
    “I understand punishment, breaking the law,’’ Nikki told NBC News. “You have to be punished for it. But for the rest of your life? I think we’ve suffered long enough.’’

    When the two first fell in love, the Texas football star was 19 years old, his cheerleader girlfriend was 15, and her mother was not happy about it. One trip to the local police station in 1996 by his future mother-in-law, and Rodriguez’s life was irrevocably altered in a state where the legal age of consent is 17. A list created to protect children from predators soon included a man who would go on to become the proud father of four daughters.

    Following an article detailing their saga in the latest issue of Marie Claire, Rodriguez and his wife spoke exclusively with Lauer on Wednesday about the stigma of still being on the list despite not being a violent or dangerous criminal. They were joined by Robin Sax, a criminal defense attorney and former sex crimes prosecutor, who offered her perspective on Rodriguez’s situation.

    Having been on the sex offender list for nearly half his life, Frank is unable to secure a job with a major corporation or leave the state without notifying local law enforcement. He cannot coach soccer for any of his daughters, who range in age from 4 to 11 years old. While the Rodriguezes admittedly broke the law as teenagers, “It shouldn’t be a one-size-fits-all,’’ Nikki told Lauer.

    The future couple met at a mutual friend’s house when Frank was a senior and Nikki was a freshman, and a relationship quickly blossomed. It soon became sexual, a fact that Nikki eventually admitted to her mother. After ongoing arguments with her daughter over her relationship with Frank moving too fast, Melissa Ostman took her daughter to the local police station and reported Frank for having sex with a minor in an attempt to throw a scare into him.

    A day later, Ostman returned to rescind her complaint, but it was too late. Her daughter told the police interrogator that the sex was consensual, but was taken to the hospital to be examined for rape. The case was now in the hands of the state, which charged Frank with statutory rape. In order to avoid jail time, he pleaded guilty and accepted seven years of probation, which also required having to register as a sex offender.

    Scarlet letter“I would say this is a mom who’s trying to use the legal system to parent instead of having a conversation,’’ Sax said. “Once you open that Pandora’s box of the legal system, there are consequences, and the consequence here has been a scarlet letter that’s following him and a case where no one would expect someone in this situation to be registered.’’
    During his probation, Rodriguez was not allowed to talk to Nikki or go to public places like swimming pools or football games where children might be present. He also was not allowed to vote and had to perform 350 hours of community service while also attending regular counseling sessions for convicted sex offenders.

    But the biggest blow may have been being forced to move out of his home because he was not allowed to be under the same roof as his 12-year-old sister. “If I had known the implications,’’ Ostman told Marie Claire, “I wouldn’t have done it.’’

    Despite the limitations of Frank’s probation, the couple eventually reconnected, married and started a family. When they had their first daughter, Rodriguez was not allowed to live in the house because he was on probation, so he lived there illegally, engulfed by paranoia and fear until his probation ended in 2003.

    With Frank still listed in the sex offender registry, he and his wife have had to endure whispers behind their back while also repeatedly setting the record straight to those who stumbled across Frank’s name on that stigmatizing list.

    “[You are] constantly feeling like you have to explain yourself to everyone that you come in contact with, always wondering if people have seen him on the registry,’’ Nikki said. “We thought that everyone knew, but once the [Marie Claire] article came out, we realized there were a lot of people in our hometown that had no idea.’’

    Nikki recalled a family whose children used to come over every day to play with her daughters, then abruptly stopped coming without explanation. It was yet another instance where the couple has wondered if Frank’s status as a sex offender has caused a ripple effect.

    “The idea behind the list is it’s supposed to show who the worst of the worst people are out there,’’ Sax said. “It’s a tool that we as parents use to protect our kids. It’s supposed to signify ‘This person is a danger to our society, watch out.’ When someone is looking at that list, they are not expecting Mr. Rodriguez to be there.’’

    A light at the end of the tunnel for Rodriguez could be coming in September, when Texas is expected to modify its sex offender law. At that time, he can petition the state to be removed from the sex offender registry.

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    my god laws can be retarded. and it's like law enforcement refuses to use their brains and apply a little discretion.
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    This is just stupid to the extreme.
    Her mother should be kicked. She knew better.
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    Her daughter told the police interrogator that the sex was consensual, but was taken to the hospital to be examined for rape.
    I bet the mother wasn't expecting this to happen. The whole thing is crazy.


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    Registries just don't work. There are people on there who pose no danger and there are predators who aren't on there because they haven't been caught.
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    I don't think it has anything to do with the mother. Texas should have had a petition for removal process a long time ago. I can tell you right now, if some 19yo was fucking my 15yo kid, I'd call the cops too.
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    and ruin his life and possibly your own daughter's too (if she ends up marrying him) in the process?
    reactions like these are why why these things happen in the first place... *sigh*
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    Quote Originally Posted by sputnik View Post
    and ruin his life and possibly your own daughter's too (if she ends up marrying him) in the process?
    reactions like these are why why these things happen in the first place... *sigh*
    I have to agree. I wouldn't consider the nineteen year old in that situation a "sex offender'. Also the thought that he would be labelled this for life would seriously give me pause about going to the cops. I don't think the mother in this article realized the consequences.

    I remember a couple of my 16 year old friends dating older guys who were nineteen through twenty-one. Of course the guys were in the wrong, but for them to be arrested and then put on a sex offender registry for life wouldn't have been the appropriate solution.


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    This is crazy! 15 and 19 really isn't a big deal imo. He should not be on that list.

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    was it just me or did the husband seem really slow during the today show interview?
    can't post pics because my computer's broken and i'm stupid

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarzy View Post
    This is crazy! 15 and 19 really isn't a big deal imo. He should not be on that list.
    I agree, no big deal

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellini View Post
    I have to agree. I wouldn't consider the nineteen year old in that situation a "sex offender'. Also the thought that he would be labelled this for life would seriously give me pause about going to the cops. I don't think the mother in this article realized the consequences.

    I remember a couple of my 16 year old friends dating older guys who were nineteen through twenty-one. Of course the guys were in the wrong, but for them to be arrested and then put on a sex offender registry for life wouldn't have been the appropriate solution.

    I don't agree. At all. 19 is legally an adult and they shouldn't be banging 15yo's, who are minors. My state even has Romeo and Juliet clauses, but a 4 year age difference does not qualify. An adult who is having sex with a child SHOULD be on the registry. However, in a case such as this, they should be able to petition to get off it. That is the appropriate venue for such action.

    And why the fuck should I care about ruining some stupid arrested-development bitch's life? Fuck 'em.
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    The whole idea of a sex offender registry is to enable law enforcement and the community at large to be aware of people in the surrounding area who could be an active threat to offend again. And protect themselves accordingly. Putting guys like this on the list makes sex-offender registries almost useless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MohandasKGanja View Post
    The whole idea of a sex offender registry is to enable law enforcement and the community at large to be aware of people in the surrounding area who could be an active threat to offend again. And protect themselves accordingly. Putting guys like this on the list makes sex-offender registries almost useless.
    Yes. More importantly fucking up some kid's life forever for a teenage mistake is ridiculous. Lumping them in with pedophiles is just stupid.


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    Quote Originally Posted by MohandasKGanja View Post
    The whole idea of a sex offender registry is to enable law enforcement and the community at large to be aware of people in the surrounding area who could be an active threat to offend again. And protect themselves accordingly. Putting guys like this on the list makes sex-offender registries almost useless.
    i think hell just froze over because for once, i agree with you.
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