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    Default Congresswoman told to 'get back in the kitchen'

    Last week a talented, young woman full of promise came to me with a flier her family received in the mail from the Republican Party. As she handed me the mailer, with a sense of disappointment and hurt, she pointed to a line in the flier that read, 'Let's take Betty Sutton out of the House and send her back to the kitchen.'

    The young woman, her heart heavy, then said, "I can't believe that this is how some people value women. And, even if they do, I can't believe that they would feel comfortable promoting it in a flier like this." And then, this bright, capable woman, who I know to be ready and able to do great things for our community and nation, said this: "I don't know why I even went to college; if this is how people treat you, what's the point?"

    The mailer was supported by funds from a Republican multimillionaire challenger by the name of Tom Ganley who has decided he wants to take my place in Congress. Ganley placed a huge advertisement in the flier to build support for the campaign to - how did they put it- oh, yes, to get me "out of the House and back in the kitchen.

    "I saw it, but I didn't think there was anything particularly wrong with it." Bill Heck, Chair, Medina County Republican Party

    When confronted about the offensiveness of the sexist remark, the Republican Chair, defended the flier, saying that he had sent it to 15,000 households and had not received any complaints. Then he went on to criticize those he offended.

    Later, after receiving a lot of questions and complaints about his statement, the Republican Chair attempted to minimize the offensiveness of the comment he approved about sending me "back to the kitchen," saying "I saw it, but I didn't think there was anything particularly wrong with it." He is standing by the flier, saying it was intended to "educate and engage voters."

    Well, I disagree. Belittling comments devaluing women are not educational or engaging. It wasn't just in poor taste. The words reflect a callous dismissal for the millions of ways that women add value to our society and our country, whether they work within the home or outside of the home. And sadly, the words send a message to girls and young women, like the one who presented the flier to me, that they should scale back their aspirations and dreams-whatever they may be. The "educational" message of this comment to our daughters and granddaughters admonishes them not to reach, don't push too hard... stay close to the kitchen.

    The problem with standing by the mailer and saying it was not intended to be offensive is that it misses the point. It was offensive and it was sent to 15,000 households.

    Aimed seemingly at me, the remark hit far beyond that target; the comment devalues women across the board. From those who nurture our children and care for families to those who manage budgets in the home to entrepreneurs who run small businesses to those who build our bridges, protect our communities and our country, to those who do everything in between.

    If the Republican Chair has any sense of how wrongheaded the comment was in substance, he should send a statement to the same 15,000 households explaining that it was wrong and apologize - but not to me, it's not about me - apologize to all of the women and girls who felt the force of the words suggesting that their true value is best reflected when they are put "back in the kitchen."

    The new mailer could celebrate the contributions that women make in every facet of this great nation. It could unequivocally state that all women deserve more respect than the belittling statement sent out in the first mailer. The new mailer could talk about how women share their talents in countless ways that benefit us all and make our country stronger, whether through raising families and managing households, volunteering, and/or working beyond the home, providing for themselves and others, or shaping policies through service in Congress.

    And, Ganley, who said he didn't read the first mailer before supporting it, could buy an ad in the new mailer to help defray the costs; this time, after he reads it.

    Now, that would be educational and engaging.

    To date, Ganley, has not stepped forward to demand any accountability from those who put out the mailer. Many have asked: What's he waiting for? Does he not know what to do? Or, is he afraid to stand up and do it? In either case, it's a failure of leadership.

    Funny thing, I'm in the "kitchen" right now, writing this blog post. So, even if you get me in the kitchen, like other women all across this country, when I get done cooking, or eating, or talking with my family at the table, I will continue to reach. I will continue to fight for progress and for jobs and for policies that will work with and for the people I am so honored to serve...all of them, men and women, girls and boys.

    We have a long campaign ahead of us, and I am counting on your support to ensure that I can keep working to protect the values you and I both care about. Please join us, by signing our petition, to demand accountability from the GOP and to stop devaluing women to further their own political ambitions."http://www.huffingtonpost.com/betty-sutton/send-me-back-to-the-kitch_b_552066.html
    Get back in the kitchen? Are they going to tell Palin or Bachmann or Dole or any of the other high-flying female repugs that?

    There's a petition against this fuckery at the link.
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    "I saw it, but I didn't think there was anything particularly wrong with it." Bill Heck, Chair, Medina County Republican Party
    this says it all.


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    We keep going backwards at an alarming rate.
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    Well now that's how we like politicians...snarky, condescending shits.
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    If they'd told a black congressperson to get back in the cotton fields, all hell would break loose, but telling women they're second-class citizens is still OK with these fuckwads, I guess.
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    I swear my head will explode if any more of this repug 'let's go back to the good old days, like the '50's' one more time. Guess what, repugs, women were popping pills and getting sauced at noon due to the extreme and utter boredom of their lives. And the whole middle class women staying home and not working is a modern phenomena, not something that has any real relevance historically. Grrr....this is just pissing me off so much.
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    "I saw it, but I didn't think there was anything particularly wrong with it." Bill Heck, Chair, Medina County Republican Party
    Bet his name used to be Bill Hell, but he softed it to Heck.
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    Republicans have been blatantly showing off their racism & homophobia, so now they're just hitting the trifecta with blatant sexism.

    When confronted about the offensiveness of the sexist remark, the Republican Chair, defended the flier, saying that he had sent it to 15,000 households and had not received any complaints. Then he went on to criticize those he offended.
    Typical GOP strategy. Offend people and then turn around and criticize them for being offended in the first place.

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    Typical!!!

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    No shock here. Assholes were screaming at Hilary Clinton to 'Iron my shirt' on the campaign trail.

    Sexism is alive, well, condoned, and accepted. Only racism is bad, all the other 'isms' are still ok.



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    Quote Originally Posted by witchcurlgirl View Post
    No shock here. Assholes were screaming at Hilary Clinton to 'Iron my shirt' on the campaign trail.

    Sexism is alive, well, condoned, and accepted. Only racism is bad, all the other 'isms' are still ok.

    Exactly. Why the fuck is that? I've given it some serious thought and I suspect it is because, unlike different races, both genders are interdependent and will not exist in sperate spheres. In other words, women are hesitant to hate too much on tha menz b/c their husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, etc. are male and they feel a certain protectiveness of them. Also, I really think anything to do with gender is so deeply embedded that alot of what is sexist gets to pass for 'normal' because it is hidden in plain sight. Also, religious nuts love to refer to strict gender roles as 'natural' which is why homophobia is so closely linked with sexism. Religion is the real culprit here, imo. It is so restrictive (at least historically speaking) and based in ignorance and it's tenets blame women for everything. Since so many people are too ignorant to question anything to do with tha lawd, the shit just keeps getting passed on and assumed to be right even though there is no evidence of any of it. Add to that the history of Puritanism in America and it's regressive views on sex and you have a perpetual double whammy.

    It really pisses me off when supposedly progressive white liberal guys who would have a coronary if you made a racist remark just so casually make sexist remarks or objectify women in ways they wouldn't tolerate having done to people of color. Then of course they can be very homophobic as well, only validating my assertion that they go hand in hand.

    I hate all isms, but it seems to me that in regards to sexism we have experienced a regression and would benefit from some of the old school consciousness raising groups of the 70's. It floors me to see how many women just accept sexist treatment of either themselves or other women and how many of them don't recognize it when it hits them in the face. Internalized sexism is a culprit I suppose, but I hate that,too, because it makes us seem like we must really be the dumber sex to have allowed the wool to be pulled over our eyes like that. An example is women who slut bash or slut shame failing to recognize they are participating in the denegration of all women and not just the ones who would fuck their boyfriends.
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    I agree but, I also believe that we women are our own worst enemies. We want equality but, are really happy to expect our car door opened, chair pushed in, man to give us their seat on the bus, pay for dinner, etc., etc., etc.

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    Eh. I don't agree. I don't have expectations like that.

    And when I go to work I want people to value me for the work I do and what I contribute in other ways--to see me as a 'worker' not a 'female worker.' For a lot of women, work is meant to be a 'safe zone' where you're taken seriously and not harassed. That doesn't seem like too much to ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by witchcurlgirl View Post
    No shock here. Assholes were screaming at Hilary Clinton to 'Iron my shirt' on the campaign trail.

    Sexism is alive, well, condoned, and accepted. Only racism is bad, all the other 'isms' are still ok.
    I think racism is starting to be quite ok with a lot of people. It seems like there is a segment of the populace that wants to go back to the days where women stayed home, blacks 'knew their place', Eye-talians controlled crime, the 'Pollacks' only played football, etc.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Face View Post
    I agree but, I also believe that we women are our own worst enemies. We want equality but, are really happy to expect our car door opened, chair pushed in, man to give us their seat on the bus, pay for dinner, etc., etc., etc.
    i agree we are our own worst enemies but i don't think it's because of the examples you listed - those are pretty harmless, courtship ritual type things or men being gentlemen. where i think we betray ourselves is in bigger ways: women are almost always the ones to give up their careers, whether for kids or to move somewhere because their partner got a job (you don't see many men following their girlfriends/wives while they pursue their careers), women are the ones who continue to change their names when they get married, to do most of the housework even when they work outside the home, to take on most of the childcare, etc...
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