Spare me: Jenny Sanford prays for her husband's mistress

**buttmunch** · August 18th, 2009, 09:22 PM

JENNY Sanford Googled the Argentine woman who was having an affair with her husband, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, to see what she looked like.

Read the Whole Interview on Vogue's Web Site

"What woman wouldn't want to know what her husband's mistress looks like?" a friend of Jenny's asks in September's Vogue. "She's pretty," was Jenny's reported verdict.

Jenny, 47, a former investment banker at Lazard Freres and the mother of four children, mostly feels sorry for her errant husband, 49, who claimed he was hiking the Appalachian Trail in June when he was actually in Buenos Aires visiting María Belén Chapur, 43, a divorced mother of two who worked briefly as a TV correspondent.

"He was just obsessed with going to see this woman," Jenny told Vogue. "I have learned that these affairs are almost like an addiction to alcohol or pornography; they just can't seem to break away from them."

As for Chapur, "I am sure she is a fine person. It can't be fun for her, though I do sometimes question her judgment . . . All I can do is pray for her because she made some poor choices," Jenny said.

Politics is partly to blame, she theorized, because of the inflated ego that develops with elected office. "Politicians become disconnected from the way everyone else lives in the world," Jenny said. "I saw that from the very beginning. They'll say they need something, and 10 people want to give it to them. It's an ego boost, and it's easy to drink your own Kool-Aid."

But Jenny said Mark was the last person anyone would guess was a philanderer. "It never occurred to me that he would do something like that," she told the magazine. "The person I married was centered on a core of morals. The person who did this is not centered on those morals."http://www.nypost.com/seven/08182009/gossip/pagesix/jenny_prays_for_govs_gal_pal_185095.htm

Does anyone else think this woman sounds about as warm as an iceberg? I know she's probably trying to make sense of all this but bloody hell...

**C_is_for_Cookie** · August 18th, 2009, 09:32 PM

She feels sorry for her cheating husband? What the hell lady?

**witchcurlgirl** · August 18th, 2009, 09:35 PM

Remember the good old days when wronged wives didn't give interviews about hubby's pecadillos to fashion magazines?

**Fluffy** · August 18th, 2009, 09:55 PM

Sounds to me like Jenny is trying to submarine her husband's career with the gentle touch.

**McJag** · August 18th, 2009, 09:58 PM

Now,Butt! I would pray,too. Pray for her early demise,that is!

**kingcap72** · August 18th, 2009, 10:04 PM

I've got to give it to Jenny Sanford, she's handling this situation better than most political wives. She's not 'standing by her man' with a fake smile for political reasons, and she's not trying to make herself a whining martyr.

Although she should put the blame squarely on Sanford and his back-packing dick and not politics or some kind of addiction.

**sluce** · August 19th, 2009, 10:45 AM

I agree King. I find her interview refreshing. She's not using the other woman as a target. She is being so gracious. Looks like she is putting her kids first. What a novel concept!

It reminds me of a local situation a few years ago. A man was killed in an accidnt when he was struck by a drunk teen who lived. A few weeks later the wife of the man killed gave an interview where she publically forgave the teen. She said she would make no excuse for his bad decision but that she can't live her life filled with hate because that would prevent her from being the mother her children need. Instead she thanked the public for the support they had provided to her and the kids and then asked that people extend that same support to the teen and his family. I still get tears in my eyes when I think of her.

**BBDSP** · August 19th, 2009, 03:33 PM

I think she is merely doing what the bible refers to as heaping burning coals on her enemies' heads by being kind to them. But that's just me.

I do agree, though, that she seems to be handling it pretty well. She seems to be standing her ground OK.

**Beeyotch** · August 19th, 2009, 03:40 PM

I keep reading this as Jenny Sanford PAYS for her husband's mistress and being horrified for a second until I read it right.

**Laurent** · August 19th, 2009, 04:23 PM

Originally Posted by BBDSP

I think she is merely doing what the bible refers to as heaping burning coals on her enemies' heads by being kind to them. But that's just me.

Me, too. It's a brilliant tactic, and I don't understand why more people don't employ it. It's the people like this - the ones that can think through a situation and know how to make themselves look best regardless of their true feelings - that are usually the most formidable. I don't believe for one second this is how she really feels. She'd probably like to roast his ass on a spit and tell his girlfriend to go fuck herself.

**buttmunch** · August 19th, 2009, 04:37 PM

I don't believe the whole holier than thou act either. But hey, I wouldn't want to be in her shoes so whatever works for her. She's nuts, though, if she thinks she can work out the marriage.

**BBDSP** · August 19th, 2009, 08:12 PM

I don't think she believes she can work out the marriage. By putting the ball in his court, she's making him be the one who leaves (if that's what happens).

But I think she is also a smart person and knows that if he thinks this other woman is his 'soul-mate' then there is not much she can do about it.