In a way, I can agree with what you are saying Effie. Because of the three of us kids, as the only girl, I am probably the one person that my mother can and will one day have to rely on to do things for her as she becomes less capable. Yet it was a long hard road for us relationship-wise, while it has been seemingly much easier for her to love my brothers unconditionally and effortlessly. I actually feel like our *bond* is the strongest...she'd be mroe lost without me...but in a way she still probably has more *love* (pure and unsullied love) for the boys. If that makes any sense. I wasn't even a difficult/bratty/bitchy little girl either, but we still went through way more issues than she did with the boys.
The thought of going through similar shit with a daughter of my own is enough to make me wake up in a cold sweat at night. And not everyone is fortunate enough to have things come full circle and get to a point where they are close with their mom/daughter once again. I have many peers who remain alienated from or have a relationship that is otherwise strained or non-existent with their moms.
And IMO it remains to be seen if today's girls will turn out to be this way when it's their turn. They seem a pretty selfish lot that I have a hard time seeing many of them ending up their parent's eventual caretakers.
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