Why today's women want a girl

**MsDark** · May 3rd, 2007, 08:39 AM

In a way, I can agree with what you are saying Effie. Because of the three of us kids, as the only girl, I am probably the one person that my mother can and will one day have to rely on to do things for her as she becomes less capable. Yet it was a long hard road for us relationship-wise, while it has been seemingly much easier for her to love my brothers unconditionally and effortlessly. I actually feel like our *bond* is the strongest...she'd be mroe lost without me...but in a way she still probably has more *love* (pure and unsullied love) for the boys. If that makes any sense. I wasn't even a difficult/bratty/bitchy little girl either, but we still went through way more issues than she did with the boys.

The thought of going through similar shit with a daughter of my own is enough to make me wake up in a cold sweat at night. And not everyone is fortunate enough to have things come full circle and get to a point where they are close with their mom/daughter once again. I have many peers who remain alienated from or have a relationship that is otherwise strained or non-existent with their moms.

And IMO it remains to be seen if today's girls will turn out to be this way when it's their turn. They seem a pretty selfish lot that I have a hard time seeing many of them ending up their parent's eventual caretakers.

**southernbelle** · May 4th, 2007, 02:07 PM

I really, really want a girl. I am definitely a total girly-girl and I would love being able to dress my daughter in cute outfits and encourage her to get involved in activities like the ones I did. I think it would be much easier to relate to a daughter than a son. I have a very close relationship with my mother, and I'd like to have that with a daughter.

I wouldn't mind having a boy as well, IF I had at least one girl. If I don't get a girl, I honestly believe I will be devastated. Having only boys is like a nightmare to me. I have zero interest in athletics and other stereotypically male activities and I just don't think that raising a boy would be fun. I worry that when I have my first child, if it is a boy I won't be able to hide my disappointment, and I don't know if that's really a common feeling.

**effie2** · May 4th, 2007, 02:17 PM

My boy is my first born,then i badly wanted a girl and i had her.
I got pregnant again a lot later,and when i found out i was knocked up,i was past my 4th month,so i kept the baby.
I ve never prayed that hard in my life for the baby to be healthy AND a girl..she is now the greatest joy in my life.

**Chalet** · May 7th, 2007, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by Grimmlok

Oh Richard. Now there's a man that can cry and emote!

**pacific breeze** · May 7th, 2007, 01:26 AM

Oh, that brought a smile to my lips.

**Picara** · May 8th, 2007, 12:18 PM

Originally Posted by southernbelle

I really, really want a girl. I am definitely a total girly-girl and I would love being able to dress my daughter in cute outfits and encourage her to get involved in activities like the ones I did. I think it would be much easier to relate to a daughter than a son. I have a very close relationship with my mother, and I'd like to have that with a daughter.

I wouldn't mind having a boy as well, IF I had at least one girl. If I don't get a girl, I honestly believe I will be devastated. Having only boys is like a nightmare to me. I have zero interest in athletics and other stereotypically male activities and I just don't think that raising a boy would be fun. I worry that when I have my first child, if it is a boy I won't be able to hide my disappointment, and I don't know if that's really a common feeling.

I had a friend whose mother doted on her. She was a very feminie woman who bought my friend all kinds of clothes, make-up, the works. I would have killed to have a mother like that. But my friend couldn't have cared less. She wasn't girlie at all. All she cared about was surfing and later beer. It turned out she was gay. It broke her mother's heart because she imagined the white wedding, grandchildren and all that. Not saying that all lesbians are masculine, but my friend was very tomboyish. So you never know what kind of girl you're going to get.

I hope you're right about girls getting better when they're older, effie. The mean girl drama that goes on in my daughter's life is going to kill me. They start at 9 now. The name calling about weight and looks, it's a nightmare. None of that stuff with boys though, TG.

But maybe this saying is true:

A son is a son until he takes a wife,
A daughter's a daughter all of her life.

**cynic** · May 8th, 2007, 12:25 PM

....so this isn't a thread about lesbians?.....drat.......the title sounded good......

**MsDark** · May 8th, 2007, 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by Picara

I had a friend whose mother doted on her. She was a very feminie woman who bought my friend all kinds of clothes, make-up, the works. I would have killed to have a mother like that. But my friend couldn't have cared less. She wasn't girlie at all. All she cared about was surfing and later beer. It turned out she was gay. It broke her mother's heart because she imagined the white wedding, grandchildren and all that. Not saying that all lesbians are masculine, but my friend was very tomboyish. So you never know what kind of girl you're going to get.

That's too bad. I actually could probably handle a daughter who was a tomboy/lesbian! I've even mentioned this before IRL.

**Picara** · May 8th, 2007, 02:43 PM

Originally Posted by MrsDark

That's too bad. I actually could probably handle a daughter who was a tomboy/lesbian! I've even mentioned this before IRL.

Well I know if my daughter was a tomboy/lesbian, I'd save a ton of money and she wouldn't mess with my stuff anymore. There's pluses to every situation, I guess.

**Grimmlok** · May 8th, 2007, 03:04 PM

hey, it's the 21st century.. you can dress your boy up in clothes and girly things and he might turn into a rock star.

.. or norman bates.

**MgMMD** · May 14th, 2007, 01:52 PM

I know I had my "moments' and I know the "payback moments" are coming to me. However, my mother and I are such good FRIENDS. We have an amazing bond. We love sitting on the patio drinking wine and laughing. I miss her very much.

**AliceInWonderland** · May 15th, 2007, 02:13 PM

Originally Posted by StayYoung&Pretty

I dont know why, girls are so much harder to raise. My mum always said- i'm glad i had 4 boys and one girl instead of the other way around.

yeah thats true, its b/c girls have a brain and boys just sit there having stuff done to them rather than doing. they are easier and they cause all the shit in this world so go figure....maybe we look at raising them wrongly.