Why is plastic surgery so frowned upon? - Page 17

UndercoverGator · March 4th, 2007, 05:55 AM

I have to agree with Lobelia here. Wait until your boobs are two south pointing saggy triangles after having breast fed before tossing rocks at someone for getting implants. (not that I have implants..)

But I thank God for PS every single day because I had breast cancer and surgery left me freaky-looking and uneven. A good plastic surgeon straightened that out easily and at 47, even after breast feeding 3 kids my boobs look pretty decent even if I do have some sagging.

What the hell, I'm middle aged and I'm going to let old age do what it wants (with a few minor exceptions). Had the eyelids tweaked this year because I had some growths and it was getting hard to see, again, it was the right thing to do for me.

I'm not a huge fan of using PS to keep the clock permanent set backwards or turning yourself into a freak but if a proceedure or two helps you feel better about yourself then why not? I shudder to think what it would have been like walking around with seriously uneven boobs for years.

Mira · March 4th, 2007, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by StayYoung&Pretty

^I agree. The story said she used to feel pretty bad about herself and she was clearly unhappy and its true that confidence is very attractive. There's lots of beautiful flat chested women, they are happy and confident regardless and i think thats more noticeable than their chest. So maybe its ok to do something that will make you more confident, because i think low self esteem and a lack of confidence is really the worst thing you can have. People who have been there, and continue to have those feelings would know what I'm talking about.

This is a good point, since I had my work done I developed a confidence because my body became symmetrical for the first time in my life, and I could buy clothing together instead of separate sizes all the time. I could forget about that and just be relaxed - that give one a lot of confidence. I think that's when I truly came into my own. That and taking shit off employers and ex-husband and being the boss of two little kids--that will all give you confidence too - flip off the employer, ditch the husband and keep the adorable kids-yep that works

I think there's a point in life where it all comes together and you don't give a shit anymore - who was it that posted recently she feels great now even though she doesn't look stereotypically good?

Raspberry gashes · March 4th, 2007, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by UndercoverGator

I have to agree with Lobelia here. Wait until your boobs are two south pointing saggy triangles after having breast fed before tossing rocks at someone for getting implants. (not that I have implants..)

I agree..... i see that as reconstructive surgery more than cosmetic though. As Lobelia said she was just putting back what she once already had. I dont have anything against breast implants, but when a perfectly proportioned small busted young girl gets them, i just find it silly. But anyway.... i keep contradicting myself here because on one hand i think people should do whatever gives them confidence, but on the other hand i think alot of plastic surgery is really unnecessary and doesn't always equal happiness, so....

Born In A Brothel · March 4th, 2007, 05:38 PM

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I'm not a huge fan of using PS to keep the clock permanent set backwards or turning yourself into a freak but if a proceedure or two helps you feel better about yourself then why not?

Well said.

veronabrit · March 13th, 2007, 08:16 PM

I am a new poster and was compelled to join soley because of this thread. I think there is a very interesting and VERY important debate going on here.

I am a 24 year old student and in a month or so am about to have my breasts augmented. I am well educated and have done extensive research on the surgery and have chose a surgeon with an excellent reputation.

Anyways...there has been a lot of talk about proportion and this is something i wanted to touch on. I have read the entire thread and I noticed someone posted about women who are small and thin and have smaller/normal sized breasts for their bodies being critisized for having the surgery because they are in "proportion".

I am one of those girls that is very very very flat chested...can't even fill out a AA cup. I am also very very very tall for a girl (5'10)...I used to model when I was in my teens, so that was an advantage then.

So...at 5'10, about 135 lbs and a AA chest, I do NOT feel proportionate. It has always been my intention to have the surgery and since I am graduating from school this year and have no other obligations, I am doing it in a month from now. I have never thought of doing the procedure to have "big boobs". In fact, I don't even like huge *augmented* breasts and I cannot realte to women who want to have very large implants- but i respect their choices just as they would mine.

My intention was only ever to feel good about myself by have more proportion to my body. I want to feel more feminine and not feel like an overgrown 12 year old child. I feel I am underdeveloped, and to me, this is a valid reason to get the surgery.

I am not insecure in any other way. I feel I am attractive, confident, intelligent and overall happy with myself, my breasts are just the one physical aspect of myself that I do not feel happy with , and instead of letting this issue affect me from time to time, I am going to fix it because I can.

I know many people are against PS and breast augmentations in particular and i respect your opinion and your reasons for feeling the way you do about the procedure.

But for me, personally, I feel it is in MY best interest to have the procedure and no longer feel the way i do about my breasts. I have taken into consideration the possible complications and risks, and I still choose to do it. I think all people, regardless of whether they agree or do not agree with PS as a practice should still respect eachother and eachother's choices.

I also agree that many people DO go overboard with their surgeries and this could be indicative of a much larger problem like body dismorphia disorder and if this is the case i would urge surgeons to consider the ehtics and question operating on anyone who has this disease.

I can also see the points of people who talk about images in the media and how they affect how we feel about ourselves and our appearances...and trust me, ive been a part of that whole modeling world and I am certainly not immune to it, rather moreso aware of it.

I think it lies within the way the people in our lives make us feel-from our parents to our friends to our partners. If we aim to surround ourselves with people who make us feel beautiful regardless of how we feel about ourselves then we should not feel guilty about tweaking one or two aspects about our appearance. I know that I'm not unattractive or unsexy. But i want to have slightly larger breasts...and if someone were to judge me for that, then i applaud them, everyone has a right to their opinion.

veronabrit · March 14th, 2007, 04:41 PM

I think there is a very interesting and VERY important debate going on here.

I am a 24 year old student and in a month or so am about to have my breasts augmented. I am well educated and have done extensive research on the surgery and have chose a surgeon with an excellent reputation.

Anyways...there has been a lot of talk about proportion and this is something i wanted to touch on. I have read the entire thread and I noticed someone posted about women who are small and thin and have smaller/normal sized breasts for their bodies being critisized for having the surgery because they are in "proportion".

I am one of those girls that is very very very flat chested...can't even fill out a AA cup. I am also very very very tall for a girl (5'10)...I used to model when I was in my teens, so that was an advantage then.

So...at 5'10, about 135 lbs and a AA chest, I do NOT feel proportionate. It has always been my intention to have the surgery and since I am graduating from school this year and have no other obligations, I am doing it in a month from now. I have never thought of doing the procedure to have "big boobs". In fact, I don't even like huge *augmented* breasts and I cannot realte to women who want to have very large implants- but i respect their choices just as they would mine.

My intention was only ever to feel good about myself by have more proportion to my body. I want to feel more feminine and not feel like an overgrown 12 year old child. I feel I am underdeveloped, and to me, this is a valid reason to get the surgery.

I am not insecure in any other way. I feel I am attractive, confident, intelligent and overall happy with myself, my breasts are just the one physical aspect of myself that I do not feel happy with , and instead of letting this issue affect me from time to time, I am going to fix it because I can.

I know many people are against PS and breast augmentations in particular and i respect your opinion and your reasons for feeling the way you do about the procedure.

But for me, personally, I feel it is in MY best interest to have the procedure and no longer feel the way i do about my breasts. I have taken into consideration the possible complications and risks, and I still choose to do it. I think all people, regardless of whether they agree or do not agree with PS as a practice should still respect eachother and eachother's choices.

I also agree that many people DO go overboard with their surgeries and this could be indicative of a much larger problem like body dismorphia disorder and if this is the case i would urge surgeons to consider the ehtics and question operating on anyone who has this disease.

I can also see the points of people who talk about images in the media and how they affect how we feel about ourselves and our appearances...and trust me, ive been a part of that whole modeling world and I am certainly not immune to it, rather moreso aware of it.

I think it lies within the way the people in our lives make us feel-from our parents to our friends to our partners. If we aim to surround ourselves with people who make us feel beautiful regardless of how we feel about ourselves then we should not feel guilty about tweaking one or two aspects about our appearance. I know that I'm not unattractive or unsexy. But i want to have slightly larger breasts...and if someone were to judge me for that, then i applaud them, everyone has a right to their opinion.

veronabrit · March 16th, 2007, 06:24 PM

sorry for posting twice

Aella · March 16th, 2007, 06:29 PM

Good post, veronabrit. I can relate to an extent-fellow flat chested gal, and yes, my boobs are probably the one aspect of my appearance I would change, except that I'm reluctant to have implants. More power to you for making the decision though, and I don't think anybody has the right to judge you. I hope you're happy with the results!

UndercoverGator · March 16th, 2007, 06:41 PM

Veronabrit if this is what you want then just go for it! You're an adult and it doesn't sound like your aim is to have silly porn star boobs. It's no different than when I had my evened out post cancer. I hope it goes very well for you and you love your new breasts.