I believe parenting is an important job but agree it is only as hard as you make it. When I got knocked up I decided that my job as a parent was to help guide a new person so that they would become a self reliant, productive member of society once they became an adult. My child is now almost 18 and will be leaving for college in Aug. She is ready but I'm not sure that I am.
Lynnie - there is a big difference between being a helicopter parent, one who lives for and through their children, and being a mama bear who will make sure their children have all they need to achieve their full potential. I see you as Mama Bear. You are your childs advocate and cheerleader, as you should be. I have also seen where you let them take a step on their own and watch as they stumble. You're there to dust them off and set them on their way again. I do not know you personally, but from what you have shared, you're a great Mom and your girls are going to become great adults because of the foundation you are laying now.
Venus - you said what others have been feeling. I, along with many others, was one of Alice's biggest supporters and constantly offering support because I so wanted for her to be happier. I finally had had enough of the constant victimhood and refusal to make any changes and had the gall to disagree with her when she made horrible comments about single mothers. She attacked me and January and once again tried to flip it so that she was the victim. I had enough of her bullshit and realized it is all just a game and she loves being unhappy. She has me on ignore now. I hope she keeps it that way.