How the hell can a 9mth old baby have "lots of personality"? At that age they just kinda sit there looking cute (or not).
I am glad that you (almost) get it about pageants and how fucking ridiculous they are, but Grimm is right, by participating in any way you are just perpetuating the crazy.
And I'm sorry but if my 6yr old daughter wanted to dress up and look pretty I'd point her towards the dressup box and maybe some old makeup. I would NOT trick her out in fake hair, nails, teeth, expensive 'gowns' and haul her around the country to tacky hotels to shake her booty for a bunch of psycho pageant parents to bitch about and some creepy judges to perv over. Your daughter didn't sign up for that - YOU did.