Seriously, I'd threaten to burn her house down with her in it if she'd dragged me around by the hair too!Nancy Hansen said a social worker checked on the boy in January and reported to Russian authorities that there were no problems. But after that, the grandmother said incidents of hitting, kicking, spitting began to escalate, along with threats.
"He drew a picture of our house burning down and he'll tell anybody that he's going to burn our house down with us in it," she told The Associated Press in a phone interview. "It got to be where you feared for your safety. It was terrible."
Warning sign? Did she just ignore it?She said the boy was very skinny when they picked him up, and he told them he had been beaten with a broom handle at the orphanage.
I understand why the Russians want an agreement between them & a country that has issues with adopted children, hell, animals are exported with more than is currently available & these are human beings that we're talking about.
They're saying that 1600 Russian/US adoptions, I assume per year? Surely three child deaths out of that is 3 too many?
Since he was beaten in the orphanage (and maybe brutalised?), obviously his life with his bio-mom wasn't great & then he gets this kind of adopted parent? Is there any wonder that he reacts like this? A lot of violent behaviour is learnt... from guardians or parents or parent's boyfriends/girlfriends, etc.... I for one am totally unsurprised at his behaviour & contrary to some beliefs, beating a kid isn't going to make his stop its just going to teach him that it hurts & to get a punch in first.
Poor baby - most kids of that age are very fearful (afraid of the dark, monsters, what have you) - I can't even imagine how scared he was. It just breaks my heart. So many other things I am feeling right now but, can't seem to put them in words!!!
She was ill-equipped to deal with a child with emotional issues, which is why I wrote that maybe he was better off going back to Russia. Or he might have ended up like the children in the link I posted, adopted by people who didn't know how to use Google.
I was merely sharing that perhaps in the long run, if this woman could not handle it, better he go back to Russia and have another chance with another family. Rather than it escalate into abuse or death. We don't know if she was warned of the potential issues or not. But in the end she handled it very poorly.I merely shared that dissassociation is VERY common & as a prospective adoptor have already been warned about it.
ETA: My bad on the quoting. I read your post incorrectly.
I think that he's better off away from this woman - as maybe is her bio-son. I don't agree that he's better off in a Russian orphanage. *shudder* No, never.
I hope this little boy manages to have a happy ending.
This was just on NBC news. The adoptive mother-if you can call her that-was actually 34. According to her mother, the boy drew pictures of their house on fire with them inside,frequently saying he wanted them all dead. Then you have to ask-there is all sorts of help she could have sought out. Doesn't look like she did anything put shove him on a plane. The callousness of it all is chilling. There were so many other things she could have done. a lot if decent people and orpans are going to pay a heavy price for her decision.
I didn't start out to collect diamonds, but somehow they just kept piling up.-Mae West
Anyone ever see the movie Orphan?? Maybe the kid was like that!
Damn Novice that was some serious multiquoting!
KILLING ME WON'T BRING BACK YOUR GOD DAMNED HONEY!!!!!!!!!!
Come on, let's have lots of drinks.
What confuses and infuriates me is she had the phone numbers and contact info of the adoption agency. I have no idea how someone legally annuls an adoption, but for heavens sake, not by shipping the kid back to Russia alone to meet a stranger from the internet! No matter how many issues the child might have, the adoptive mother's issues are far worse. She's the adult, she went through the proper channels to get him, but she's too heartless and cowardly to go through the proper channels when she had problems.
Librarians are hiding something.
A 7 year old boy on a 10 hour flight alone and not knowing why. Lovely.
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