As for what Lobelia said, I'm sorry for anyone who lost a loved one to smoking or anything else. Sincerely. However, I wouldn't tolerate someone bitching at me or lecturing me or whining to me about a personal choice I made just because of their personal issues. For instance, just because someone's dad died from smoking doesn't make it acceptable to nag the shit out of another adult, as if that ever works anyway. All it does is make the nagger temporarily feel some sense of control.