Mom arrested after beating son at mall

AliceInWonderland · February 29th, 2008, 05:13 PM

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February 29, 2008
Mom Arrested After Beating Son at Mall
When Staten Island Mall shoppers saw a mother beating her 3-year-old son Tuesday afternoon, some followed her to "make sure she didn't leave," reports the Staten Island Advance. Eventually, the police arrested 33-year-old Yesenia Hausler with felony assault and endangering the welfare of a child.

Hausler apparently became angry when her son either wanted to play with a new toy or wanted to buy a new toy, and punched and slapped him so hard there were handprints on his body. One witness said, "I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I wanted to go home and take my kid out of school and just hug her."

According to court papers, Hausler told the police, "The only reason that this is a problem is because I am in this country. In my country, you can hit your kids." The Advance points out that Hausler has been an American citizen her whole life, growing up in Puerto Rico.

Her husband, who has custody of the child (the couple has two older children, too) suggested she could be suffering from post-partum depression, "(My) wife needs a little bit of help. We know that. Maybe she needs more than a little bit of help. I know she needs therapy."
Gothamist: Mom Arrested After Beating Son at Mall

^ thats the understatement of the year!

and she's giving ppl from her "country" (I'm part PR too) and Staten Island (where I'm from) a bad name; how dare she say that!

DitaPage* · February 29th, 2008, 05:32 PM

Well I don't think theres anything wrong with physical discipline if its not too severe; that 'I'll count to three' crap just doesn't work. It's women like this who have given away the power of authority by abusing it. Now NO ONE is allowed to slap their child for bad behaviour and we have all these 'you can't touch me, i have rights' delinquents running the place.

And I'm sorry but the witness who said ""I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I wanted to go home and take my kid out of school and just hug her." is a moron.

**Mr. Authority** · February 29th, 2008, 05:36 PM

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and she's giving ppl from her "country" (I'm part PR too) and Staten Island (where I'm from) a bad name; how dare she say that!

Seriously.

Us Puerto Ricans don't sock our kids at malls over toys you dumb abusive twat.

Icepik · February 29th, 2008, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Raspberry gashes

Well I don't think theres anything wrong with physical discipline if its not too severe; that 'I'll count to three' crap just doesn't work.

I just know no one is going to believe me, but I started that "If I count to three..." line on my son the moment he could understand (I would/could never use physical discipline - that's just me - I have personal issues with that) and I'll tell you.. that line worked on my son for YEARS - and I have never got to three... which is something I'm happy about because I never knew what I would do if I got there...LOL

sputnik · February 29th, 2008, 06:13 PM

^^^^
i agree in principle but there are no universal rules for kids. with a lot of children, maybe most, just the threat of punishment is enough of a deterrent. i'm not a mother but i worked as a nanny for 4 years in uni and i can tell you that kids are just so different, you really have to adapt to each one's personality. i worked for 2 families, concurrently for about 3 years, and i was a completely different nanny with each family. one set of kids, a boy and a girl, were a piece of cake. they were smart, precocious, charming little things, taking care of them wasn't like work at all, i'd spend hours with them drawing or making up crazy adventure games and their parents were total foodies and the kids would eat anything, sushi, goat's cheese, olives. i had great meals at that house

the other family, a boy and two girls, were a handful. the girls were ok but the boy, the oldest, had adhd. i had to give him time-outs at least 5 times a week. the parents were clear: he'd lose it and have über tantrums, turn almost purple and scream at the top of his lungs and kick shit around and sometimes even hit his sisters. i had to grab him, lock him in a room where he'd howl and kick and hit the door and basically go apeshit for about 5 minutes and then finally calm down. the girl had the odd tantrum too and i saw her mum spank her twice and both times she was really, really being a little shit and it stopped her right in her tracks. time outs were useless on her because she was never bored and was perfectly happy by herself in a room.

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Originally Posted by Raspberry gashes

Well I don't think theres anything wrong with physical discipline if its not too severe; that 'I'll count to three' crap just doesn't work. It's women like this who have given away the power of authority by abusing it. Now NO ONE is allowed to slap their child for bad behaviour and we have all these 'you can't touch me, i have rights' delinquents running the place.

And I'm sorry but the witness who said ""I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I wanted to go home and take my kid out of school and just hug her." is a moron.

agree that it's morons like these that have gotten countries like spain to actually pass laws against spanking children. i know a lot of people will disagree but i don't think spanking kids is wrong. i can count on one hand the times i was spanked as a kid but i can tell you that i deserved it and learned my lesson each and every time. i would never spank anybody else's kids though, i think only parents should be allowed to do it. and it's not to be abused and i've seen people that spank or even smack their kids each and every time they misbehave and that's just shitty parenting. and you never, ever hit a kid on the face. or pinch them. by spanking i mean 2 or 3 not very hard taps across the butt and nothing that causes actual pain.

AliceInWonderland · February 29th, 2008, 06:21 PM

and the kid was only 3 afterall; thats just not right! getting hit really humiliates kids; i know how that feels from years of it as a kid. and now i have no self-esteem.

msdeb · February 29th, 2008, 08:25 PM

i have never had a problem with either of my children in public. the look usually suffices. i've never hit them either. had i seen this woman punch her child, i'd have followed her too. i feel sorry for any child that gets beat by their parents. very sad

zebracakes · February 29th, 2008, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Icepik

I just know no one is going to believe me, but I started that "If I count to three..." line on my son the moment he could understand (I would/could never use physical discipline - that's just me - I have personal issues with that) and I'll tell you.. that line worked on my son for YEARS - and I have never got to three... which is something I'm happy about because I never knew what I would do if I got there...LOL

I totally believe you because it always worked for me too. The key is to have something specific in mind that you will do and be willing to follow through. She's ten now so a threat to not allow a play date with her best bud usually does the trick. I have never spanked her and agree with you that I would never use physical punishment. It's just not necessary IMO.

Honey · February 29th, 2008, 11:53 PM

Beating your kid is just plain evil, shame on this bitch

celeb_2006 · March 1st, 2008, 01:35 AM

Looks like the old 'it's ok in my culture' schtick.

buttmunch · March 1st, 2008, 03:29 AM

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One witness said, "I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I wanted to go home and take my kid out of school and just hug her."

I was going to say that I feel the same way when ever I read or hear about some poor kid getting beaten by an adult. It's not moronic, it's empathy. Kids don't deserve to be beaten and they don't deserve to be hit. Hitting them teaches them that hitting is a way to solve your problems. I don't hit my kids and they are pretty well behaved. There are plenty of ways of disciplining them without wacking them.

Sarzy · March 1st, 2008, 04:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Honey

Beating your kid is just plain evil, shame on this bitch

I agree. It's awful. I think hitting a child is just cowardly.

sparkly · March 1st, 2008, 06:32 PM

[quote=Raspberry gashes;1078783]Well I don't think theres anything wrong with physical discipline if its not too severe; that 'I'll count to three' crap just doesn't work. It's women like this who have given away the power of authority by abusing it. Now NO ONE is allowed to slap their child for bad behaviour and we have all these 'you can't touch me, i have rights' delinquents running the place.

And I'm sorry but the witness who said ""I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I wanted to go home and take my kid out of school and just hug her." is a moron.[/quote]

TBH, I would probably react the same way if I saw a woman punch and beat her 3 year old son. I don't have kids, but that wouldn't stop me from being upset. When the cops got their, the kid still had handprints.

I hope he's ok now.

SweetPea · March 1st, 2008, 08:40 PM

I believe in a slap every now and again but you don't punch your child. You're bigger and you're stronger. The minute a child whines about a toy is time to leave the store.

McJag · March 1st, 2008, 08:50 PM

Umm-did you read she punched and hit the child hard enough to leave handprints ? We arn't talking about a tap here! This was a 3 year old,for Pete's sake! Yes-I would want to run home and hug my child too, and everyone elses child I saw! This is child abuse. We are not talking about a swat on the bottom. And over a toy! SHE is the only moron here! 3 year olds are still babies. Damn!