Come out, Come out wherever you are! (A secret life of lies never stays secret)

[Sojiita]

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A secret life of lies never stays secret
A secret life of lies never stays secret


Leonard Pitts, syndicated columnist based in Washington: McClatchy/Tribune Newspapers

November 14, 2006

Today's topic: flaunting homosexuality. Exhibit A: Doogie.

Meaning Neil Patrick Harris who, in another life, was the title character in "Doogie Howser, M.D.," the tale of a boy genius who becomes a doctor.

Recently, Harris was outed on a gossip Web site. His response in a statement to people.com said in part:

"I am happy to dispel any rumors or misconceptions and am quite proud to say that I am a very content gay man living my life to the fullest."

That was it.

No muss, no fuss.

The world continued spinning, the seas did not boil and the clouds did not bleed.

Still, one suspects the news was greeted less than warmly in those bastions of social conservatism where, as one gentleman indicates in the new movie "Borat: Cultural Learnings of America for Make Benefit Glorious Nation of Kazakhstan,"they hope to make it legal to string homosexuals up by the soft parts.

Indeed, one suspects the most--pardon my language--liberal response in those parts would be something along the lines of, "Fine, he's gay. Why couldn't he keep that to himself? Why do they have to flaunt it? I don't go around announcing that I'm straight!"

Put aside that Harris was forced into his announcement by an individual who called him out online. Put aside, too, the fact that one "flaunts" one's heterosexuality whenever one publicly canoodles with a sweetie of the opposite gender.

Concentrate, instead, on this notion many social conservatives have that homosexuality is best dealt with by being ignored, denied, kept from public view.

Why, they ask, in letters to editors and Web sites done up in red, white and blue, must homosexuals "flaunt" their "deviant behavior"? "Flaunt" meaning to acknowledge in any way, no matter how small, their sexual orientation.

Which brings us to Ted Haggard. Until earlier this month, he was senior pastor of New Life Church in Colorado Springs and president of the National Association of Evangelicals, an influential preacher who had George Bush's ear. Neither the church nor the Evangelical association has been known for its friendliness toward gay people. So there was quite an uproar when Mike Jones, a gay prostitute, dropped the bombshell allegation that he'd had a three-year sexual relationship with the preacher. Haggard initially denied even knowing Jones but then recanted, admitting that on at least one occasion, he sought a massage and bought meth from the gay hooker.

On Nov. 2, Haggard stepped down from the presidency. Two days later, his church fired him. He has confessed to "sexual immorality" and will spend the next three to five years in "restoration," a process that reportedly involves confrontation, counsel and--you can't make this stuff up--rebuke from "godly men."

This all raises two questions. One: Between this guy, the late gay-bashing former Spokane mayor, James West, Pat Robertson biographer Mel White, and Michael Bussee and Gary Cooper, leaders in the "curing homosexuality" movement until they fell in love with one another, can't we now safely assume any conservative who rants about the homosexual agenda is a lying hypocrite gayer than a Castro Street bar?

And, two: Wouldn't you much rather be Neil Patrick Harris than Ted Haggard just now? In other words, wouldn't you rather be a content gay man living life to the fullest than a closeted gay hypocrite living lies to the fullest? Especially since lies are so frequently found out.

That's the fallacy social conservatives miss. In a culture that allows gay people room to be gay people, there is no need of lies. In a culture that does not--i.e., theirs--lies are rampant. And that's unfortunate, not simply for the person in question, but for all the people in his or her life.

And here, I'm thinking of Gayle Alcorn. She and Haggard have five children. They've been married 28 years. That's a long time to sleep next to a lie.

I bet she wishes he had "flaunted" his homosexuality a long time ago.

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E-mail: lpitts@miamiheald.com

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*yeah this is an editorial piece but was not sure where to put it so if a mod wants to move it is is ok with me..not sure where it would go. Just want to see what people think about the article.*

[hotmommy]

Articulate and the point was clear...I don't see why it's my business if two persons want to be together, regardless if they are straight, homosexual, black, white, etc. It's so hard to find happy stable people out there that if you can find contentment just being you, who am I to tell you to live a lie?