Women's sex drive plummets after finding secure mate

Grimmlok · August 14th, 2006, 02:07 PM

No wonder your husbands are grouchy

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to plummet once she is in a secure relationship, according to research.
Researchers from Germany found that four years into a relationship, less than half of 30-year-old women wanted regular sex.

Conversely, the team found a man's libido remained the same regardless of how long he had been in a relationship.

Writing in the journal Human Nature, the scientists said the differences resulted from how humans had evolved.

The researchers from Hamburg-Eppendorf University interviewed 530 men and women about their relationships.

They found 60% of 30-year-old women wanted sex "often" at the beginning of a relationship, but within four years of the relationship this figure fell to under 50%, and after 20 years it dropped to about 20%.

In contrast, they found the proportion of men wanting regular sex remained at between 60-80%, regardless of how long they had been in a relationship.

Tenderness

The study also revealed tenderness was important for women in a relationship.

About 90% of women wanted tenderness, regardless of how long they had been in a relationship, but only 25% of men who had been in a relationship for 10 years said they were still seeking tenderness from their partner.

Dr Dietrich Klusmann, lead author of the study and a psychologist from Hamburg-Eppendorf University, believed the differences were down to human evolution.

He said: "For men, a good reason their sexual motivation to remain constant would be to guard against being cuckolded by another male."

But women, he said, have evolved to have a high sex drive when they are initially in a relationship in order to form a "pair bond" with their partner.

But, once this bond is sealed a woman's sexual appetite declines, he added.

He said animal behaviour studies suggest this could be because females may be diverting their sexual interest towards other men, in order to secure the best combinations of genetic material for their offspring.

Or, he said, this could be because limiting sex may boost their partner's interest in it.

Professor George Fieldman, an evolutionary psychologist from Buckinghamshire Chilterns University College, said: "These findings seem to fit in with anecdotal studies and his explanations seem plausible.

"The rational for why a woman's sex drive declines may be down to supply and demand. If something is in infinite supply, the perceived value would drop."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4790313.stm

Palermo · August 14th, 2006, 02:25 PM

I saw this article and while it may be true for some, it's definitely not true for all. We still have a great sex life, thank you very much

Grimmlok · August 14th, 2006, 02:29 PM

Ask your husband and see what he says

MrsDark · August 14th, 2006, 02:47 PM

Maybe this is why some men seem to thrive on their women being a little bit insecure and do shit to try and keep them guessing.

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Originally Posted by Grimmlok

Ask your husband and see what he says

I dunno...now that I'm in my 30's, I seem to know and hear about more women who aren't getting it enough from their husbands (so they claim) rather than vice versa.

AliceInWonderland · August 14th, 2006, 02:55 PM

omg this is sooooooooo true; thats why i need to get cialis!

crumpet · August 14th, 2006, 04:14 PM

I think it would be true for a lot of people. I suspect womens' sex drives would increase rapidly if we had men turn us down once in a while. Hell, I can't even bend over to pick up a tissue off the floor without my man trying to jump me. That's what I get for being so sexay, lol!!

Grimmlok · August 14th, 2006, 04:20 PM

Oh come on, you're doing the bend and snap!

Sojiita · August 14th, 2006, 04:39 PM

Now that we know this about women, what about men? What happens to a mans sex drive once he finds a 'secure mate'????

Grimmlok · August 14th, 2006, 04:44 PM

Oh, he gets bored and starts fucking around.

AliceInWonderland · August 14th, 2006, 04:48 PM

^ and this is why i wish i were GAY!...fucking men.

Grimmlok · August 14th, 2006, 04:49 PM

Oh please, gay men are even worse for that!

Take marriage infidelidy and speed it up by a factor of 100, or they start having 3somes and open relationships..

AliceInWonderland · August 14th, 2006, 04:55 PM

yeah i kno; i wish i were a lesbo! they don't cheat and fuck around like a dog in a heat at a kibble and bits convention!

i kno gay men are worse; hello! i live in L.A.

Sojiita · August 15th, 2006, 01:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Grimmlok

Oh please, gay men are even worse for that!

Take marriage infidelidy and speed it up by a factor of 100, or they start having 3somes and open relationships..

Are you sure it is quite that bad????