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    Default Joe DiMaggio wanted Marilyn Monroe to be his demure housewife, beat her up

    Marilyn Monroe had money, fame and critical acclaim, but what she wanted most was a man to love her. The men she loved - and who loved her back - were Joe DiMaggio, Arthur Miller and Frank Sinatra. But all three were troubled relationships. In our final extract from a definitive new biography, we reveal the blazing rows, the miscarriages and the morning she seduced Sinatra...
    Baseball player Joe DiMaggio saw some publicity shots of Marilyn Monroe in March 1952 and decided to ask her for a date. Although she was a dazzlingly beautiful movie star, he was at that time by far the bigger celebrity.
    His brilliance with a baseball bat for the New York Yankees made him one of America's most revered heroes. He had retired from baseball just a few months before, aged only 36, because of injuries - but the public adored him still as a sporting legend.


    Iconic: Marilyn Monroe posed for this sexy, skirt-flying shot for The Seven Year Itch but husband Joe DiMaggio was incensed with jealousy and beat her

    The date was set for March 8, at Villa Nova, an Italian restaurant which is now The Rainbow Bar And Grill on Sunset Boulevard. Marilyn, who wasn't sure she was much interested in a baseball player, was late by two hours.
    But he impressed her. Despite his quiet, almost sullen demeanour, he still managed to command the whole room. He wasn't goodlooking: his face was all sharp angles, with teeth not only bucked but haphazardly arranged, and eyes too close together.
    He was lanky and spindly. He didn't walk, he lumbered. But power seemed to emanate from him. After dinner, they drove around Beverly Hills for three hours, fascinated by each other.
    During the summer of 1952, Marilyn and DiMaggio began to date more regularly. But red flags were raised by her concerned friends. He didn't like her career, he thought women should be firmly in the home, he was jealous of the attention she generated from other men.
    In July, Joe took her home to San Francisco to meet his family. Once there, she clearly saw why Joe wanted his wife to be domestic - women raised children, cooked and cleaned, and it had always been that way in the DiMaggio family.
    The eighth of nine children of Sicilian immigrants, Joe was raised with strict Catholic values in a household that stressed a strong work ethic and, above all, pride in their Sicilian heritage.
    At the end of summer, Joe dropped a real bombshell: he thought it would be best if Marilyn abandoned her acting. It only caused her stress, he argued, so why do it?
    'Joe was sick and tired of Marilyn's career,' said Stacy Edwards, who was a sportswriter at the time in Philadelphia and knew DiMaggio well. 'He said he wanted to get her out of the movies. "We'll buy a nice home in San Francisco and just live a simpler life," he told me.


    Enlarge Resentment: Marilyn with Joe in 1954. In the October of that year they were divorced after only nine months of marriage

    'I knew Joe and I knew what he was about deep down, and it wasn't just Marilyn's career. The attention she got, he was used to getting. When he walked into a room with her, he disappeared. He wasn't used to that at all. He was used to being centre of attention. But with Marilyn, no man could ever be centre of attention. Joe couldn't accept that.'
    Then, on New Year's Eve 1953, Joe asked her to marry him. Carried away by the moment, Marilyn said yes. On January 14, 1954, they were married in a quick civil ceremony in San Francisco.
    She made a strange request though. If she died before him, would he promise to place flowers at her grave every week? He promised - and years later would fulfil this bleak pledge.
    Even with his ring on her finger, DiMaggio could not reconcile himself to Monroe's stardom. He turned to his friend Norman Brokaw, a Hollywood agent, for advice. 'I want her to quit,' he told him, 'but she won't do it.'
    Norman mulled over his friend's problem for a moment and said: 'Joe, let me explain something to you, as an agent in this town. There's no actress in this business who is going to give up Clark Gable or Tyrone Power or Spencer Tracy for any man.
    'In fact, I don't know any actress who'd be willing to give up her career when she's on her way to the top, any more than you'd have given up your baseball career before its time. So you have to get used to it. Or, honest to God, you're going to lose her.'
    Not long after this meeting with Norman, Joe wrote in his personal journal about Marilyn: 'No jealousy . . . Don't forget how lonesome and unhappy you are - especially without her.'
    But the jealousy wasn't the only problem. 'He was smacking her around,' said one of his closest friends. 'He didn't seem too ashamed of it, either. He said that she brought the worst out in him, that he wasn't usually that kind of man. He said she was spoiled and very self-centred and it drove him crazy.'

    The final straw for Marilyn came when Joe beat her up in their hotel after he became incensed at the sexy, skirt-flying shoot for The Seven Year Itch.
    Five thousand onlookers watched the filming of that shot, at one in the morning, with Marilyn standing over a subway grate, her accordion-pleated skirt flying. Unfortunately, DiMaggio was one of them.
    Director Billy Wilder described the expression on DiMaggio's face as 'the look of death'. Even though Marilyn wore two pairs of pants for modesty, under the powerful Klieg lights the material became quite see-through.

    Unhappy marriage number two: Marilyn was always afraid playwright husband Arthur Miller, would 'find out' she wasn't intelligent enough for him

    He rushed back to their hotel and waited for his wife. Then he took out his rage on her, slapping her around the room. The noise was so great that other hotel guests reported it to the hotel's management, afraid that someone was getting badly hurt.
    The next day, Gladys Witten, a studio hairdresser, noticed bruises on Marilyn's shoulders.
    'But we covered them with make-up,' she said.
    Sportswriter Stacy Edwards says: 'The way I heard it, Joe let her have it. It was pretty bad. After he hit her, she told him she'd had enough and wanted out of the marriage.
    'I spoke to Joe maybe three weeks later and asked him about that night. He said "Things got out of hand, I admit it. But she p****d me off so much. She didn't care what I thought about anything, she just wanted to do what she wanted to do."
    'I lost a lot of respect for Joe when I found out he hit Marilyn. I thought "How could any man hit such a beautiful creature?"'
    On October 27, 1954, just nine months after her wedding - Marilyn stood before a judge and detailed her reasons for her divorce petition. She said DiMaggio was 'cold and indifferent' to her and that days would go by when he wouldn't speak to her. DiMaggio didn't make an appearance and the divorce was granted.
    One of the people Marilyn could turn to during this time was her friend Frank Sinatra. While her divorce was being finalised, she went to live with Sinatra for a couple of weeks to recover emotionally.
    Sinatra was miserable himselfat this time, because of the slow erosion of his marriage to actress Ava Gardner, said to be the love of his life.
    For a time, his relationship with Marilyn was platonic. That situation apparently changed early one morning when Sinatra went into the kitchen and found Marilyn standing in front of the open refrigerator, trying to decide between orange juice and grapefruit.

    By the time Marilyn came to make Some Like It Hot, she was mired in extreme depression while the cast and crew thought she was incredibly unprofessional

    She was naked. 'Oh, Frankie,' she said, feigning embarrassment, 'I didn't know you got up so early.'
    'That was the end of anything platonic,' reported Sinatra's friend Jimmy Whiting. 'Actually, Frank had been going through this impotency trip at this time. The booze was completely ruining his sex life. He was getting too old to drink like that and then expect to perform in the sack. He was frustrated by it, because one thing Sinatra always prided himself on was his ability to satisfy a woman.'
    Apparently, Marilyn cured Sinatra of his impotence, at least for a while.
    'Frank said that Marilyn was like a shooting star,' observed actress Esther Williams, 'and you couldn't help but be fascinated by her journey. While you knew she was going to crash and burn, you didn't know how.'
    The only reason Sinatra wouldn't allow himself to become more serious with her was because he was still racked with pain over Ava.
    A few months later, in the spring of 1955, Marilyn began a relationship with the intellectual playwright Arthur Miller. He was married when he met Marilyn and lived on the East Coast with his wife and two children.
    They secretly began dating. Miller loved how well Marilyn listened to him, the way she hung on his every word. One mutual friend of the couple put it best: 'She was all about listening and receiving and he was all about talking and sending. He lectured her constantly. She was mesmerised by him. She drank him in like a sponge.'
    However, she was reluctant to marry him because she wasn't sure she was right for him. He could continue to dazzle her with his intelligence, but she confided in friends she didn't think she was intelligent enough for him. 'What will he do when I'm found out?' she fretted.
    Yet, despite her doubts, on June 29, during a very quick private service, Marilyn and Miller were married in New York. They travelled together to London in the summer of 1956 where Marilyn would have the unhappy experience of filming The Prince And The Showgirl with Laurence Olivier.


    Lover: Frank Sinatra, pictured with actress wife Ava Gardner before they split, had a brief relationship with Marilyn

    Mabel Whittington, a maid at the newlyweds' rented house, recalled: 'They seemed happy at the start, but as the months wore on he was constantly nagging her, usually how he felt she should prepare for the day's work. He picked on her a lot. She seemed to really want to know his opinion, though.
    'However, I think there was a point when she'd had enough, especially when he began to criticise her acting when she was practising from her script. She'd walk around the house trying to remember a simple line, repeating it to herself over and over.
    'He was annoyed and he kept correcting her. She snapped at him and said: "When you begin making pictures, we can discuss this. Until then, let me act and you do what you do."'
    Shortly before filming was to begin, Marilyn happened to see a journal Arthur wrote, open on a table, and read it. What she saw terrified her.
    On those pages, Arthur confessed he had second thoughts about having married her. She wasn't what he'd thought she was - she was just a child, not a woman. She wasn't as intelligent as he hoped and, in fact, she was someone he pitied. Moreover, he thought his career might be jeopardised by his new association with her.
    He had heard that Laurence Olivier thought she might be a spoiled brat, and he didn't know how to respond to that, since he basically agreed. He called her a bitch.
    It was the realisation of Marilyn's worst fear - that she would be 'found out', that she wasn't as smart or as talented as she had made him think she was, and now he knew the truth.
    'It seemed to be raining the whole time,' Marilyn would say of her experience in England. 'Or maybe it was me.'
    In July the following year, Marilyn learned she was pregnant. She wanted nothing more than to have a baby, but it was an ectopic pregnancy and she lost the baby. For the following year she was deeply depressed. By the time she came to make perhaps her most famous film, Some Like It Hot, she was mired in extreme depression.


    The best pictures of her career: Photographer Douglas Kirkland shot the famous snaps of Marilyn, naked in silk sheets, in 1961 the year before her death

    On September 12, 1958, after a long and emotional telephone conversation with Arthur, Marilyn took an overdose of sleeping pills - something she had done several times before. Had it not been for her drama coach, Paula Strasberg, coming to her rescue, she might have died.
    Once Miller arrived in LA to be with her, he realised practically everyone connected with Some Like It Hot, from Billy Wilder down, found his wife incredibly unprofessional. Miller was embarrassed for her and for himself. He was angrier with her than ever.
    'My feeling about Arthur Miller was that he was a little too resentful of his wife,' Wilder recalled. 'I wasn't married to her. I didn't have to be patient and loving. But he was her husband and I thought he could have been more understanding. I remember saying at the time: "Finally, I have met someone who resents Marilyn Monroe as much, if not more, than I do." '
    To compound her misery, on December 16, 1958, Marilyn suffered a miscarriage and, after a series of operations, was told she would never be able to have children.
    The marriage limped on during the filming of The Misfits - written by Miller and which, unknown to either of them, would be her last film.
    'Marilyn and Arthur so loathed each other, I'm not sure how either of them got through this movie,' recalled make-up artist Allan Snyder. Yet again her hopes of a happy marriage were to end in the divorce courts.
    It wouldn't be long before Marilyn was hospitalised with a breakdown. She turned, strangely, to Joe DiMaggio to rescue her. He'd been in therapy and although he could still be jealous and controlling, he proved a loyal and trusted friend, although both knew better than to risk remarrying.
    During this time, Marilyn also rekindled her romance with Sinatra. 'He was in love with her, no doubt about it,' said Milt Ebbins, business partner to President Kennedy's brother-in-law, the actor Peter Lawford, and a good friend of Sinatra's.
    Her problems with drink and drugs were almost too much for him, though. In September 1961, Marilyn joined Sinatra on his yacht for a four day cruise to Catalina Island. She drank plenty of champagne and the more she drank, the more disoriented and boisterous she became.
    She also took plenty of the sleeping pills to which she was addicted. Sinatra became frustrated and embarrassed by her behaviour. One of his former associates recalled: 'Tell you the truth, Frank couldn't wait to get her off that boat. She was embarrassing him. He told me: "I swear to Christ, I am ready to throw her right off this goddamn boat."
    'Instead, he called one of his assistants at the end of the trip and had her taken back to his place. He told me later that when he got home, she was sound asleep on the couch.
    'He picked her up and moved her to the bedroom. He undressed her and put her under the covers where she slept soundly through the night. I asked Sinatra if he was going to stop seeing Marilyn and he said: "By now, I would have cut any other dame loose. But this one - I just can't do it."'
    Perhaps what is most telling about this time in her life is that despite her terrible unhappiness, the photographs of Marilyn are the best of her career.
    Photographer Douglas Kirkland, who took the famous pictures of her in November 1961, lying in bed covered in white silk, says the idea was hers.
    'She sat beside me and put me at ease. I was young and didn't know how to ask her to pose for sexy images, but she simplified it, suggesting: "I should get into bed with nothing on but white silk." We discussed the details and she said she wanted Sinatra music and chilled Dom Perignon.'
    She never looked lovelier than she does in those photographs.
    How she was able to turn on the professional Marilyn Monroe, at the same time as she was so terribly troubled, remained a true mystery to her friends and associates. It was as if she only found true bliss in front of the camera as the perfect vision of herself. She certainly never found it with any man.
    • Extracted from The Secret Life Of Marilyn Monroe by J. Randy Taraborrelli, published by Sidgwick & Jackson on September 18 at £18.99 ° 2009 J. Randy Taraborrelli. To order a copy (p&p free) for £17.10 call 0845 155 0720.


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    That was a good read.

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    I agree. Marilyn was so complicated. I don't think she was particularly dumb, but I do think she was childlike and spoiled. I also think she was racked with insecurities and really wanted to be loved - its funny because of all her tales, I never hear of her with any girlfriends or trusted women around her. I don't think she really cared sometimes who she hurt to get ahead. I also don't think she was always as nice of a person as her legacy often states. But she was immensely interesting.
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    Oh please. Not another "Marilyn as victim" book.

    She tried her best to break up Yves Montand and Simone Signoret's marriage; but she could not. Simone was her friend and she stabbed her in the back, so no surprise that she had no close women friends.

    She didn't deserve Arthur Miller.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Classic Broad View Post

    She didn't deserve Arthur Miller.
    Arthur Miller was not a man without fault, look at the way he treated his son.
    Arthur Miller and the son he hid away for 40 years | Mail Online

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    I always have to roll my eyes at the stories that paint Joe DiMaggio as "the man who really loved her" or her "one true love". He wanted to control and claim her as some prize, and when she died, she was beyond being captured. Him arranging her funeral and leaving flowers at her grave every week for 20 years didn't read as love to me, it came across as obsession over what he never won.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Laurent View Post
    I always have to roll my eyes at the stories that paint Joe DiMaggio as "the man who really loved her" or her "one true love". He wanted to control and claim her as some prize, and when she died, she was beyond being captured. Him arranging her funeral and leaving flowers at her grave every week for 20 years didn't read as love to me, it came across as obsession over what he never won.
    I agree 100% and do not like the way that version seems to romanticize abusive relationships.
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    It's true that I've never heard of Marilyn having any female friends.

    I love the photo of her swathed in the silk sheets; I've never seen it before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hummus View Post
    Arthur Miller was not a man without fault, look at the way he treated his son.
    Arthur Miller and the son he hid away for 40 years | Mail Online
    I didn't say he was without fault - who is? Yes it came out that he had a son with Down's Syndrome, and he apparently could not accept that.
    But I still admire him as a man.
    Obviously, I do not admire this part of his life, but as a whole, I think he was an amazing person.

    I also do not believe Joe DiMaggio ever laid a hand on MM. I don't believe he was that kind of man. Yes he wanted her to be with him and be more of a "wife," but that is what she said she wanted, too, in interviews.
    Of course, it made good press and good PR for her......

    She had no close women friends. She had to be Queen Bee.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Classic Broad View Post
    I didn't say he was without fault - who is? Yes it came out that he had a son with Down's Syndrome, and he apparently could not accept that.
    But I still admire him as a man.
    Obviously, I do not admire this part of his life, but as a whole, I think he was an amazing person.

    I also do not believe Joe DiMaggio ever laid a hand on MM. I don't believe he was that kind of man. Yes he wanted her to be with him and be more of a "wife," but that is what she said she wanted, too, in interviews.
    Of course, it made good press and good PR for her......

    She had no close women friends. She had to be Queen Bee.
    Do you know Joe? I've never heard these battery stories refuted by anyone. How can you say he wasn't that 'kind of man'? Any man from any walk of life can be that kind of man and uber traditional old fashioned men with rigid beliefs about gender roles are more likely to believe women are inferior and that it is okay to keep them in line, despite all the hooplah about chivalry and whatnot.
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    I absolutely believe Joe DiMaggio was that the kind of guy to "love" with a fist.

    Google "Wrong Door Raid" and see what kind of balanced guy he was.

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    'You look like a wh*** in that outfit!' How Yankee slugger Joe DiMaggio wanted wife Marilyn Monroe to quit Hollywood, cook his meals and bear his children


    • Screen icon Marilyn Monroe and NY Yankee legend Joe DiMaggio met in 1951 and married in 1954. The marriage lasted 274 days
    • On their first date Marilyn drove Joe around Hollywood for three hours before they ended up at her hotel. The Yankee Clipper had hit a home run.
    • She described herself as ‘the ballplayer’s ball player’
    • DiMaggio had a violent streak.' He physically abused her at times, slapped her around’.
    • When Marilyn died, DiMaggio was heartbroken. ‘A sound came out of him, an inhuman sound, almost like the roar of a lion. He then bent over and s‘tarted to weep in deep gulps and gasps

    By CAROLINE HOWE
    PUBLISHED: 16:46, 3 July 2014 | UPDATED: 19:48, 3 July 2014


    He was the greatest living ballplayer since Babe Ruth and led the New York Yankees to nine World Series Championships, but Marilyn Monroe didn’t have a clue who the great Joe DiMaggio was.

    But she would soon learn all about Joltin’ Joe DiMaggio, the Italian Stallion, the Yankee Clipper, New York Times bestselling author C. David Heymann reveals in his blockbuster new book, Joe and Marilyn.

    After seeing her picture in a San Francisco newspaper posing with baseball players at spring training camp in California in 1951, the recently retired ballplayer had to meet the star who showed up for the photographers wearing high heels, tight white shorts, a revealing blouse while posing with a baseball bat.



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    Swinger: Yankee clipper Joe DiMaggio went batty when he saw the picture of movie star Marilyn Monroe ready to swing. He made a call and they made a date




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    Skin game: It didn't take long for Joe and Marilyn spend the night. After their first day, Monroe drove Joe around Hollywood for three hours before they ended up at her hotel. The Yankee Clipper had hit a home run

    DiMaggio called a friend and a date was set up in Los Angeles. Arriving an hour and a half late to the Villa Capri restaurant, Monroe thought, ‘He’s different. If I hadn’t been told he was some sort of ballplayer, I would have guessed he was either a steel magnate or a congressman,' quotes Heymann.

    DiMaggio barely touched his dinner, spoke little, but smiled and stared at the star now at the peak of her beauty. When actor Mickey Rooney came over to the table, it was to see DiMaggio and not Monroe. Listening to Rooney’s conversation about Joe’s illustrious career, Monroe learned he was a god and the most exciting man at the table.

    ‘Sitting next to Mr. DiMaggio was like sitting next to a peacock with its tail spread,' she crooned.
    When their love affair bloomed, she described herself as ‘the ballplayer’s ball player’.

    Joe was ready to be excommunicated from the church when the archbishop wouldn’t recognize his divorce from his first wife and proceed with his plans to marry the screen goddess.
    ‘I’d rather head for hell than give up my Garden of Eden. Let them excommunicate me’.
    ‘What Joe is to me is a man whose looks and character I love with all my heart. We knew it wouldn’t be an easy marriage’.

    That was an understatement.



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    They do: The charismatic couple kiss following their marriage ceremony in a judge's chambers in San Francisco in 1954

    Monroe drove Joe around Hollywood for three hours before they ended up at her hotel, the Beverly Carlton that first night. He took a cab to his hotel in the morning. The Yankee Clipper had hit a home run.

    They would continue to see each other secretly in his suite at the Knickerbocker Hotel where they ordered room service and had a bellhop buy wine at a nearby liquor store. They were happy but Joe realized they were opposites, Heymann writes.

    DiMaggio was uneducated, insecure, painfully shy and practically inarticulate but he was a rock star baseball god. He was considered handsome, rich and fabulously famous. Like rock stars, he had groupies in every port. But he was very private and kept his name out of the newspaper and avoided photographers.believed she was continually exploited by the studios, paying her too little and only offering her scripts where she played the wiggling, giggling buxom blonde.
    Monroe had her own insecurities, was also uneducated but she had a consumptive appetite for publicity and so promiscuous, she couldn’t even remember all the men she had slept with.
    The budding relationship hit a barrier when Joe learned that Monroe was the nude girl in the recently published ‘Golden Dreams’ calendar. The studios didn’t like it and neither did Joe. It amped up her star power and within weeks, she was on the cover of Life – just what she had hoped for.
    He believed she was continually exploited by the studios, paying her too little and only offering her scripts where she played the wiggling, giggling buxom blonde. Studios made millions of her sexiness, she made thousands.

    Joe advised her to ‘Hold out until they pay you what you’re worth’. ‘Can’t you see that those Hollywood swine are using you? You’re nothing to them but a piece of meat.’ But she never wiggled out of their grasp.
    Monroe called Joe, ‘Daddy’, ‘Pa’, ‘Slugger’, and said ‘Joe’s biggest bat isn’t the one he used at the plate’.




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    Paridise found: Joe was ready to be excommunicated from the church when the archbishop wouldn¿t recognize his divorce from his first wife. 'I'd rather head for hell than give up my Garden of Eden. Let them excommunicate me,' Joe said

    Joe had married Dorothy Arnold in November 1939 but kept up with his groupies throughout the marriage. After a game in the Bronx, he’d head to Toots Shor’s, a legendary restaurant and lounge on West 51st Street in Manhattan, for drinks and a steak dinner with his pals. He expected Dorothy to be the obedient hausfrau, ready to cook meals, be his sex partner, run any errands while he partied with New York’s café society.
    Dorothy went along with it for a while and then filed divorce papers on grounds of ‘cruel indifference’ in October 1943. Even having a child didn’t change his expectations in the relationship. The marriage lasted four years.

    'There were in love, very much so, but they didn’t understand each other. They came from different universes.'

    Joe’s son, Joe Jr., viewed his father as having a superficial view of life, concerned with image. Joe was a chain-smoker, smoking four packs a day but he was never photographed with a cigarette. He wanted to appear wholesome.
    Joe and Marilyn were good friends with Jane Russell and her husband, Bob Waterfield, an all-pro quarterback for the Los Angeles Rams. While Jane and Bob had their own film company, DiMaggio wanted nothing to do with the Hollywood jungle and held out hope that Marilyn would quit making films and start having babies.
    ‘I never for a minute believed that she and Joe DiMaggio would last’, Russell said. ‘There were in love, very much so, but they didn’t understand each other. They came from different universes. That was the tragedy of their relationship. They couldn’t stay together. It was ill fated, written in the stars’.
    Screaming matches followed by great moments of tenderness became the norm.



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    Chill: Joe clowns around with Marilyn in Florida. But Joe had a violent streak, writes the author

    Marilyn would never be the hausfrau Joe had hoped. She not only couldn’t cook but she was a lousy housekeeper and never cleaned up. Furniture was littered with discarded clothing, kitchen counters covered with food remains and stains, dirty dishes piled in the sink, empty bottles and cans on the bedroom floor along with clumps of used tissue paper and silverware.
    DiMaggio was fastidious and when he couldn’t take it any longer, he escaped to a hotel room at the Knickerbocker Hotel, Heymann writes.
    Retiring from the ball field in 1951, Joe became West Coast vice president of public relations for Buitoni, an Italian food company producing pasta and sauces. When he was away from Monroe, he called her ten times a day. He wanted to know what she was doing and who she was seeing.
    On that long list of lovers was jazz singer and musician Mel Torme, Eddie Robinson, Jr., Nico Minardos, a Greek American actor; director/writer Elia Kazan, Wall Street tycoon Paul Shields – among others.
    It seemed as though everyone was after Monroe including Hugh Hefner who put her on the cover of Playboy’s first issue in December 1953 as well as the first nude centerfold as ‘Sweetheart of the Month.’



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    Skin game: Joe hated it when Marilyn flaunted her body, never more so than in The Seven Year Itch

    But Joe was her man, even though he wanted to keep her to leave Hollywood and keep her to himself. He hated it when she flaunted her body in public
    On one occasion, according to Heymann, he went ballistic over a low-cut black chiffon gown that displayed ample cleavage she was going to wear when she served as grand marshal for the Miss America beauty pageant in Atlantic City, late July 1952.

    Marilyn insisted it was 'an entirely decent dress. You could ride in a streetcar in it without disturbing the passengers'. But there was one photographer who shot her shooting down from a balcony.
    Predictably the shot infuriated Joe.

    'You look like a f****** w**** in that outfit,' he ranted.

    Joe wanted a Roman Catholic priest to do the honors but was informed that the church did not recognize his divorce from Dorothy. So the happy couple were married at San Francisco’s city hall on January 14, 1954. Joe gave Marilyn a platinum eternity band set with thirty-five baguette cut diamonds. She wore a chocolate brown broadcloth suit with small rhinestone buttons and a white ermine collar that she had purchased off the rack at Saks Fifth Avenue in Beverly Hills.
    He gave his new bride a full-length black sable coat and she handed him the twenty nude transparencies taken of her in 1949 for the ‘Godden Dreams’ calendar but considered too graphic to use because they showed her dark pubic hair before she started bleaching it.

    'She was hyper and manic, he was introverted. She was disorganized and a slob, he was obsessively neat.'

    They spent the first night of their honeymoon in Paso Robles, located in California wine country halfway between Los Angeles and San Francisco, before heading to a hideaway mountain lodge outside of Idyllwild in California’s San Jacinto mountains.

    Two weeks later, they headed back to San Francisco and then to Tokyo where Joe was had agreed to launch the Japanese baseball season.
    Monroe spent most of her time in her hotel room at the Imperial Hotel taking antibiotics for a mild case of bronchial pneumonia and arguing with Joe. It was here he realized that she was never going to give up her career and stop craving publicity. She was hyper and manic, he was introverted. She was disorganized and a slob, he was obsessively neat.
    Before leaving for Japan, Monroe had obtained a post office box so that she could correspond with playwright Arthur Miller, who she had met through director Elia Kazan, in secret. She believed she had more in common with the playwright than with the ballplayer – and the marriage had not even begun. She was stressed and increased her consumption of drugs for her insomnia adding Nembutal to the list with Demerol to relieve pain, wtites the author.



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    Foul play: Monroe outside her home with lawyer Jerry Giesler in October, 1954, who later that day would announce that Monroe's marriage to Joe

    While she told the press that the couple wanted little DiMaggios, Joe realized he was only an appendage to his wife’s fame. She had bewitched him but she was zapping his spirit. The tension between them pushed her further into drugs and drinking not just champagne but straight, hard shots of vodka and gin.
    Marilyn started sleeping with her voice coach, Hal Schaefer, Heymann writes. ‘She claimed she loved me’, said Schaefer, ‘but I’m not sure she knew what that meant. I think our relationship represented an escape from a marriage that had gone bad. He wanted a homemaker, and she hoped to become a serious actress’.

    DiMaggio found out about Schaefer and asked him to meet. Marilyn pleaded with Schaefer not to, saying that Joe would kill him. ‘I absolutely believed her, because she’d mentioned how crude and controlling he was. She’d said he was very severe and had a short fuse. He had a violent streak. He physically abused her at times, slapped her around’.
    Schaefer said they discussed marriage and Monroe was willing to convert to Judaism.
    DiMaggio wasn’tletting it go. He hired a private eye to follow the pair around, bugged Schaefer’s car, Marilyn’s car.
    When it got out that Schaefer had been seeing Marilyn, he tried to kill himself by swallowing sleeping pills washed down with rum and typewriter-cleaning fluid. He survived somehow and they continued their affair but the death knell had struck for Monroe’s marriage.



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    The other man: Marilyn had already begun an affair with playwright Arthur Miller when she was still married to DiMaggio

    DiMaggio’s outbursts of anger and rage increased. Joe ripped up dresses she put on suspecting she was going out to meet a guy. She was late to the set the next day blaming Joe for having kept her up all night with a rant.
    The finale to their marriage drama came on September 15 when two thousand men and dozens of photographers stood on the corner of Lexington Avenue and Fifty-Second Street to watch the filming of the famous skirt-blowing scene for the Seven Year Itch.
    Standing over a subway grate, Marilyn’s skirt blew up to her neck and revealed a transparent pair of panties. Director Billy Wilder stopped the shoot and ordered her to change them.

    When she returned from her trailer, DiMaggio had retreated to Toots Shor’s bar to drown himself in drink and flew back to San Francisco by himself.

    'The finale to their marriage drama came when two thousand men and dozens of photographers stood on the corner of Lexington Avenue and Fifty-Second Street to watch the filming of the famous skirt-blowing scene for the Seven Year Itch.'


    Marilyn filed for divorce citing ‘mental cruelty’. October 27, 1957, the divorce was uncontested but that didn’t end Joe’s obsessive behavior.
    In California at that time, a one-year waiting period was required before a divorce became final.
    Suspecting Marilyn was still sleeping with Schaefer, DiMaggio, Sinatra and two of the singers cronies decided to bust into an apartment building in West Hollywood where Shaefer was spotted going in with Marilyn. The band of seven broke down the front door and entered the apartment only to find a fifty-year old woman cowering in her bed and shrieking.

    They were on the wrong floor giving Marilyn and Hal time to escape out a back stairway, according to Heymann.

    Marilyn took on more lovers as well as psychoanalysis five times a week where she was diagnosed as suffering from borderline personality disorder. She was now living in New York.
    She jumped into an affair with Marlon Brando and their intimate friendship would last until her death. But she was also seeing Arthur Miller who was still living with his wife and children in Brooklyn Heights.



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    End of an era: DiMaggio wipes a tear from his eye after bursting into tears at the funeral of the screen icon. They remained friends to the end, and were even planning to marry again

    He followed her everywhere and they began meeting in obscure Manhattan restaurants. They quickly decided they wanted to get married and she would convert to Judaism and have his babies. Miller moved to Reno to get a quickie divorce while writing Marilyn long letters every day confessing his love.
    'For the first time I have the feeling I’m going to be with somebody who’ll shelter me. It’s as if I’ve come in out of the cold’, Marilyn said. The happy couple wed at the Westchester County Court House in White Plains, New York on June 29, 1956.

    Arthur’s mother taught her new daughter-in-law how to cook chicken soup, prepare borscht, matzoh balls and Marilyn attempted to speak Yiddish.
    But this wasn’t a marriage made in heaven either. While in England filming The Sleeping Prince with Sir Laurence Olivier, Monroe found her husband’s journal on a table and read that he found her difficult to deal with, out of control and with endless emotional demands.
    She had had two miscarriages with the playwright, was diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic, seeing a psychiatrist five times a week and still on vast quantities of pills. Miller was facing the same issues that drove Joe away – her sleep deprivation, overwhelming insecurities, anxieties, fears, paranoid, drug and alcohol abuse. It was too much for the self-centered, reclusive writer.
    ‘I began to dream that with Marilyn I could do what seemed to me would be the most wonderful thing of all – have my work and all that this implied, and someone I just simply adored. I thought I could solve it all with this marriage. She was simply overwhelming, as I guess I was to her, for a while. It was wonderful to be around her. Until she got ill’.



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    Sizzle: New York Times bestselling author Heymann explores the tumultuous relationship between Joltin' Joe and screen siren Marilyn in his new book

    They divorced in 1961 and Marilyn had a strong over other lovers - including French actor Yves Montand, President John F. Kennedy and his brother Bobby

    Through it all, DiMaggio never stopped loving Marilyn and never turned his back on her. He had visited her, asked herto marry him AGAIN and made plans to marry at city hall on August 8, 1962.

    She was found dead on August 5.

    The five-hour autopsy performed by Thomas Noguchi, did not establish the cause of death and no trace of barbiturates were found in Marilyn’s stomach lining or digestive tract.
    Noguchi called it ‘a probably suicide’. Her tissue slides disappeared during the autopsy complicating a definitive cause of death.
    DiMaggio was heartbroken. ‘A sound came out of him, an inhuman sound, almost like the roar of a lion’, according to his son Joey. ‘He then bent over and started to weep in deep gulps and gasps’. He broke down crying during the funeral service. With Marilyn’s death, DiMaggio died as well.
    He made plans with a nearby florist to deliver fresh roses to her crypt twice a week for years to come and ordered a bench to be made and installed in front of the crypt.

    He held the Kennedys responsible for Marilyn’s death. ‘They might as well have put a loaded gun to her head and pulled the trigger’, DiMaggio said.
    DiMaggio believed no one could love her as much as he did. She was the one person in his life that he had truly loved and he never got over his grief.
    He developed tuberculosis and pneumonia and succumbed on March 8, 1999.


    Read more: Joe DiMaggio wanted Marilyn Monroe to quit Hollywood, new book reveals | Mail Online


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    I'm not the hugest Marilyn Monroe fan, as in a fan of her movies, considering I have only seen just one of them. Truth be told, her voice annoyed the everliving shit out of me, so much so, that I could only stomach one of her movies.

    That said, she is the personification, of a fragile human being. She has always struck me, as someone who just wanted to be loved, and to be an important part of someone's life. I think that's why she had such shitty relationships, she didn't want to "fix" people, she just want people to love her (and not Marilyn Monroe love, but Norma Jean love).

    I think that's why she resonates today. Her fragility, by today's standards, would be mocked off of the internet, BUT we all secretly feel it.
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