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    I was reading an article yesterday where some girl was trying to get Social Services to give guardianship of her unborn child to her boyfriend's mother so it wouldn't be taken from her at birth and adopted. The boyfriend is currently in prison for assaulting her while breaking a restraining order that was handed out after a previous attack and their oldest child has been removed from her care because of the violence in the home. And yet she STILL says that she loves her boyfriend and that they'll be together when he gets out and it'll all be fine because he'll change. Some people (men and women) will always put their partner before their children, no matter what the risks, red flags or outright abuses are. I don't - can't - understand it.

    I'm also all for teaching children to listen to their feelings. Kids often don't have the same positive prejudices that we pick up as adults that can lead us to try and rationalize things we might find odd. When I was about eight there was a boy in his mid/late teens living across and a few doors down that I didn't think was 'right' but whenever I said anything to the adults I got a lecture on how I should make the effort to be nice to him because he was "a bit touched and couldn't help how he was". Good thinking by the adults, I suppose. They didn't want me growing up treating anyone with a disability or a learning difficulty with suspicion. Except they were wrong to tell me to stop being mean and complaining about him because I ended up having a disturbing near miss with him.

    At the time I was totally, utterly obsessed with mermaids after being bought Sea Wees mermaid dolls for Christmas, so when this boy approached me and started showing me some plastic cocktail skewers with all the usual shapes and figures on top, including mermaids, and offered to give me all the mermaid ones he had if I went into his house I was torn. We weren't supposed to talk to strangers - but he wasn't a stranger, he lived across the street. We were told not to accept invitations to go places with people, but he was a neighbour and all of us kids were in and out of most of the houses on the street because we all knew each other and our parents all knew each other. And then I had the adults voices ringing in my ears that I had to be nice to this boy, that I was a naughty girl to say that he was creepy and horrible when all he was was different. So I went. Thankfully things didn't go as badly as they could have - he exposed himself and tried to make me touch him, tried to kiss me and told me to take off my shorts but he didn't stop me when I ran like hell for home. It was a very unpleasant experience and it affected me for a long, long time (perhaps still does because I'm shuddering writing this) but when I read about the fate of other kids... Yeah, I know I got lucky. I never told an adult what had happened, not even Ma Kitty, because I thought it would make me a naughty girl for being mean to someone who couldn't help being the way he was.

    So that's me and that's my icky childhood story and that's why I believe in listening to a child who tries to tell you that something isn't right about someone, even when they don't know or can't say why. That's also why I'm a great believer in trusting my gut instinct, too.
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    Sorry, for the lengthy post and grammar mistakes...fighting a very bad cold and can't see straight.

    My son’s at the time best friend’s stepfather is in jail for 8 years + 20 for probation when he gets out. We all thought this was a great guy. He did everything for his neighbors, they were foster parents.

    My son quit going over to their house with the excuse that he wasn’t getting along with his best friend. After a couple of months my son started hanging out there again because he missed his friend.

    It turns out the reason my son didn’t want to go there was because his stepfather was making my son feel uncomfortable. Saying things like “I love you” and wanting my son to sit on his lap just little things like that…My son decided if he was to do anything like that again he would tell us. He wasn’t sure what the stepfather was doing was wrong because it was subtle.

    My son was invited to stay the night there and at 11pm there is this pounding on the door. We were sound asleep and it was my son he blurted out, “**** put my hands down his pants!”

    I was in shocked and did not doubt him…I got my son to calm down and my husband goes out to confront this fucker. I run outside and my husband is down the street face to face with him and told him what my son said, of course he denied it. My husband tells him we are calling the cops and I scream at him with the phone in my hand that I’m talking to the cops now. I am running from outside into the house trying to keep track of my son and what is going on inside with my son.

    The cops arrived to get a statement from me and my husband waiting for the detective to get there to talk to my son. They are only allowed to talk to the kids I think 3 times so they want to do everything by the book.

    The detective arrives takes our statement and my son’s statement, and then he heads over to the assholes house for his. No arrest because of course he is saying it didn’t happen. He was told he had to go to the police station and meet with another detective during the week.

    The next day a crimes unit lab comes over to collect my son’s clothing to see if there was anything on his cloths.

    The asshole goes into the station and tells it was my at the time 11 year old son who was touching him. The detective knew he was full of shit and arrested him on the spot.

    Me and my dad go to his arraignment the next day where they formally booked him. They set a date with the judge which was a few days later for bond.

    During this time we had meeting with the detective and family services where the talked to us and my son separately.

    At the bond hearing the judge was not going to give him bond, but his lawyer a member of the church…also, his church was funding his lawyer…the lawyer talked the judge into bond.

    There was another hearing because the POS was supposed to go to his father in law’s but there was a problem since this FIL works with computes and he wasn’t allowed to be anywhere with computers. So they were going to tell the judge that they are locked in a separate room.

    During all this time his family was trying to say he was innocent and my son was a liar. His wife and family would smile at him and wave all lovely dovey and give us the side eye.

    They were waiting outside the courtroom talking to their lawyer (paid for by their church) and the DA comes up to us to let us know there was another victim that came forward after she saw his mug shot on the news. The DA tells the POS lawyer and family this. The satisfaction I had was priceless to see the smiles and smugness wiped off their faces.

    They left to never return again to any of his court dates…The POS confessed. We of course went to all the hearings after that…I think there was only 1 more and that was for his sentencing. His other victim was there, a girl who lived in their old neighborhood. He of course tried to apologize for being a sick fucker.

    As you can see this is a very lengthy process. If the second victim never came forward there would have been a trial which could have been very damaging to my son.

    These men pick their woman well. She was a quiet small mousy single mother that he met in church. His first victim was also a friend of his stepsons. They would take kids into their homes and were also foster parents.

    Thankfully, my son didn’t let this go on…thankfully; the POS didn’t grab and hurt my son that night when he ran out of their house.

    My son is a hero and stopped this POS from hurting anyone else.

    I believe Dylan.
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    I am so happy for your son Butterfly. Congrats to you for creating an environment where he knew he would be believed and protected.
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    Thanks, Sluce! I only shared his story because he wouldn't mind. He knows he didn't do anything wrong and is not ashamed. I have always told him if anyone does anything to you, you tell me right away, especially if they threaten you to keep your mouth shut. I will always protect you.

    I wish the girl would have felt safe enough to tell on him.
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    I think if Mia coached Dylan it would have come out... Dylan was so young and being questioned so much I think she would have slipped up and say something along the lines as, "My mom said"... I know when they questioned us they asked us a few times if we told our son so say anything, and I know they asked him if we told him to say anything.

    These are very intense questioning sessions. You have a detective, social service worker, and therapists there all watching and listening.
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    My lord,how many perverts are out there and how many go unpunished? Creepy!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Butterfly View Post
    I think if Mia coached Dylan it would have come out... Dylan was so young and being questioned so much I think she would have slipped up and say something along the lines as, "My mom said"... I know when they questioned us they asked us a few times if we told our son so say anything, and I know they asked him if we told him to say anything.

    These are very intense questioning sessions. You have a detective, social service worker, and therapists there all watching and listening.
    Wow, what a nightmare. You are so lucky another victim came forward. He very easily could have gotten off, and your poor son would have had to have gone through the cross-examination process on the stand with him possibly still getting off scott-free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sputnik View Post
    sorry but due process and assumption of innocence until proven guilty is the foundation upon which the modern legal system is based and anyone accused of a crime has the right to that assumption, to due process and to a fair and adequate defence. it sucks that some children aren't believed and that accusers sometimes get off without any punishment but as horrible as it sounds, that can't be used to change that basic tenet of the justice system. an accusation is not a guilty verdict and if the accuser and the prosecution can't make their case and there isn't enough evidence to convict, well then that's that.

    please don't think i don't care about victims. and child abuse is especially tricky because very often there isn't any physical evidence and/or enough evidence to convict. i guess there needs to be more outreach and education so parents and relatives and social workers can be more proactive and we need to remove the shame associated with it so that people won't be tempted to silence victims or sweep the abuse under the rug so as to not bring shame on the family.
    It seems like some people in this thread are thinking as if we are bound to legal principles. But we are not in not a court of law. The Internet has gone wild with discussion and argument, and a lot of the defenses of Woody Allen I've seen would not be useful in court, yet the media and the public-as-jury are paying great attention to them.

    I think my perspective is colored by the fact that I have worked in book publishing for a long time, and many of the books I handled early on were memoirs. And memoirs are woeiuro%s5ur8vnoeiur from a libel perspective. Stuff had to be cut, and authors sometimes didn't understand the distinction between their stories being true, versus provably true. When I talked authors through the editing process, I had to reassure them that the press's insistence on cutting things was NOT because I or we did not believe their stories, but because their stories were not provable, they were he-said, she-said, and the party under discussion was still alive.

    So from my pov, each of the parties involved in this mess has a story, and different parts of their stories will be useful and usable depending on the context.

    In a court context, the bar is set very high, and I wouldn't want the court system to stop presuming innocence or to stop relying heavily on procedure. That's important. But if the media were a court, Dylan's story probably wouldn't even be under consideration right now. Stories like this are not confined to courts, which though problematic is also a good thing unless we want to be a society of mutes. (But often they don't involve a public figure, and identities are not disclosed. And for me, that's where things start to get really confusing, which is a separate topic, I guess.) And I think in her own statements, she has implied that she is not attempting to "try" Woody Allen, but to tell her story. I wonder if she knew how strongly, and in what manner, people would react.

    (And somewhat as an aside, I feel sympathetic toward every member of that family, including Allen, regardless of what did or didn't take place. No matter who did what, the outcome is rupture, and that causes pain even if it's buried under heaps of denial.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kittylady View Post
    Even with evidence he would have a legion of defenders, just the same as Polanski. I'm afraid I'm not like Sputnik; if a singer/actor I had previously enjoyed was convicted of something like this then I would never be able to revisit any of their work without feeling revulsion. When the case against Ian Watkins became public I immediately got out my MP3 player and laptop and deleted the one and only LostProphets track I had. I know me and I know that I'll never hear that song again without feeling sick to my stomach.
    OMG Ian Watkins! Sickest bastard ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Butterfly View Post
    Thanks, Sluce! I only shared his story because he wouldn't mind. He knows he didn't do anything wrong and is not ashamed. I have always told him if anyone does anything to you, you tell me right away, especially if they threaten you to keep your mouth shut. I will always protect you.

    I wish the girl would have felt safe enough to tell on him.

    Butterfly, I cannot imagine how you must have felt and kuddos for not killing the guy and ruining your life in jail. You must so have wanted to do that.

    I have an 11 year old and a 9 year old and this week again I started in the car talking about creeps, Of course they told me to shut up but I so hope if ever they meet a man like that they trust me enough and do like your brave boy did. You must feel so proud of him and of yourself.
    I should stop coming to this thread. As a mother I get so angry at Allen AND Mia even if he didn' do the abuse so much damage has been done to those children.

    That said I do believe Dylan, reading the letter seem to be to detailed to have been put in her mind.
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    But if this person sees the person they perceive as their abuser continually lionized in the media, it probably opens up wounds continually.


    But the statute of limitations hasn't passed for her to bring criminal charges. She could also bring a civil suit. Ditto for Woody - I'm sure he has lawyers who could file a libel suit or a civil suit against Dylan rather than needed to respond on an op-ed page. I don't see how her putting her face out there and doing interviews doesn't open any wounds.

    In Dylan's open letter, she writes about feeling terrible every time Woody was nominated for an Oscar and namechecks the people in his movies. But I don't recall in her letter or her new interview with People her ever mentioning the two young daughters he has with Soon-Yi. Going to the press is not going to do anything to protect her sisters, the children in Woody's care right now, but criminal charges might. I think there has been zero benefit to everyone involved trying this case in the media again except you now have family members slinging accusations at each other in public.

    Dylan accuses Woody of abuse. Moses accuses Mia of abuse. Dylan calls Moses the "lowest of the low" for not believing her allegations yet she dismisses his. It all boils down to he said/said. There are people who insist that Dylan must be given the benefit of the doubt and believed who, at the same time, are ridiculing Moses' allegations because he's a son accusing a mother. It's just a mess and IMO everyone involved on both the Farrow and Allen sides needs to get off their Twitters, get off the phone to reporters, and think about what they're doing. Then call their lawyers if they want to pursue anything further. Whatever the truth about Dylan (or Moses') allegations, turning this all into a media soap opera is not going to do anything to help abuse victims.
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    Woody Allen Speaks Out

    By WOODY ALLENFEB. 7, 2014



    Last Sunday, Nicholas Kristof wrote a column about Dylan Farrow, the adopted daughter of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow. Mr. Allen has written the following response to the column and Dylan’s account.

    TWENTY-ONE years ago, when I first heard Mia Farrow had accused me of child molestation, I found the idea so ludicrous I didn’t give it a second thought. We were involved in a terribly acrimonious breakup, with great enmity between us and a custody battle slowly gathering energy. The self-serving transparency of her malevolence seemed so obvious I didn’t even hire a lawyer to defend myself. It was my show business attorney who told me she was bringing the accusation to the police and I would need a criminal lawyer.

    I naïvely thought the accusation would be dismissed out of hand because of course, I hadn’t molested Dylan and any rational person would see the ploy for what it was. Common sense would prevail. After all, I was a 56-year-old man who had never before (or after) been accused of child molestation. I had been going out with Mia for 12 years and never in that time did she ever suggest to me anything resembling misconduct. Now, suddenly, when I had driven up to her house in Connecticut one afternoon to visit the kids for a few hours, when I would be on my raging adversary’s home turf, with half a dozen people present, when I was in the blissful early stages of a happy new relationship with the woman I’d go on to marry — that I would pick this moment in time to embark on a career as a child molester should seem to the most skeptical mind highly unlikely. The sheer illogic of such a crazy scenario seemed to me dispositive.

    Notwithstanding, Mia insisted that I had abused Dylan and took her immediately to a doctor to be examined. Dylan told the doctor she had not been molested. Mia then took Dylan out for ice cream, and when she came back with her the child had changed her story. The police began their investigation; a possible indictment hung in the balance. I very willingly took a lie-detector test and of course passed because I had nothing to hide. I asked Mia to take one and she wouldn’t. Last week a woman named Stacey Nelkin, whom I had dated many years ago, came forward to the press to tell them that when Mia and I first had our custody battle 21 years ago, Mia had wanted her to testify that she had been underage when I was dating her, despite the fact this was untrue. Stacey refused. I include this anecdote so we all know what kind of character we are dealing with here. One can imagine in learning this why she wouldn’t take a lie-detector test.


    Meanwhile the Connecticut police turned for help to a special investigative unit they relied on in such cases, the Child Sexual Abuse Clinic of the Yale-New Haven Hospital. This group of impartial, experienced men and women whom the district attorney looked to for guidance as to whether to prosecute, spent months doing a meticulous investigation, interviewing everyone concerned, and checking every piece of evidence. Finally they wrote their conclusion which I quote here: “It is our expert opinion that Dylan was not sexually abused by Mr. Allen. Further, we believe that Dylan’s statements on videotape and her statements to us during our evaluation do not refer to actual events that occurred to her on August 4th, 1992... In developing our opinion we considered three hypotheses to explain Dylan’s statements. First, that Dylan’s statements were true and that Mr. Allen had sexually abused her; second, that Dylan’s statements were not true but were made up by an emotionally vulnerable child who was caught up in a disturbed family and who was responding to the stresses in the family; and third, that Dylan was coached or influenced by her mother, Ms. Farrow. While we can conclude that Dylan was not sexually abused, we can not be definite about whether the second formulation by itself or the third formulation by itself is true. We believe that it is more likely that a combination of these two formulations best explains Dylan’s allegations of sexual abuse.”

    Could it be any clearer? Mr. Allen did not abuse Dylan; most likely a vulnerable, stressed-out 7-year-old was coached by Mia Farrow. This conclusion disappointed a number of people. The district attorney was champing at the bit to prosecute a celebrity case, and Justice Elliott Wilk, the custody judge, wrote a very irresponsible opinion saying when it came to the molestation, “we will probably never know what occurred.”


    But we did know because it had been determined and there was no equivocation about the fact that no abuse had taken place. Justice Wilk was quite rough on me and never approved of my relationship with Soon-Yi, Mia’s adopted daughter, who was then in her early 20s. He thought of me as an older man exploiting a much younger woman, which outraged Mia as improper despite the fact she had dated a much older Frank Sinatra when she was 19. In fairness to Justice Wilk, the public felt the same dismay over Soon-Yi and myself, but despite what it looked like our feelings were authentic and we’ve been happily married for 16 years with two great kids, both adopted. (Incidentally, coming on the heels of the media circus and false accusations, Soon-Yi and I were extra carefully scrutinized by both the adoption agency and adoption courts, and everyone blessed our adoptions.)

    Mia took custody of the children and we went our separate ways.

    I was heartbroken. Moses was angry with me. Ronan I didn’t know well because Mia would never let me get close to him from the moment he was born and Dylan, whom I adored and was very close to and about whom Mia called my sister in a rage and said, “He took my daughter, now I’ll take his.” I never saw her again nor was I able to speak with her no matter how hard I tried. I still loved her deeply, and felt guilty that by falling in love with Soon-Yi I had put her in the position of being used as a pawn for revenge. Soon-Yi and I made countless attempts to see Dylan but Mia blocked them all, spitefully knowing how much we both loved her but totally indifferent to the pain and damage she was causing the little girl merely to appease her own vindictiveness.

    Here I quote Moses Farrow, 14 at the time: “My mother drummed it into me to hate my father for tearing apart the family and sexually molesting my sister.” Moses is now 36 years old and a family therapist by profession. “Of course Woody did not molest my sister,” he said. “She loved him and looked forward to seeing him when he would visit. She never hid from him until our mother succeeded in creating the atmosphere of fear and hate towards him.” Dylan was 7, Ronan 4, and this was, according to Moses, the steady narrative year after year.


    I pause here for a quick word on the Ronan situation. Is he my son or, as Mia suggests, Frank Sinatra’s? Granted, he looks a lot like Frank with the blue eyes and facial features, but if so what does this say? That all during the custody hearing Mia lied under oath and falsely represented Ronan as our son? Even if he is not Frank’s, the possibility she raises that he could be, indicates she was secretly intimate with him during our years. Not to mention all the money I paid for child support. Was I supporting Frank’s son? Again, I want to call attention to the integrity and honesty of a person who conducts her life like that.

    NOW it’s 21 years later and Dylan has come forward with the accusations that the Yale experts investigated and found false. Plus a few little added creative flourishes that seem to have magically appeared during our 21-year estrangement.


    Not that I doubt Dylan hasn’t come to believe she’s been molested, but if from the age of 7 a vulnerable child is taught by a strong mother to hate her father because he is a monster who abused her, is it so inconceivable that after many years of this indoctrination the image of me Mia wanted to establish had taken root? Is it any wonder the experts at Yale had picked up the maternal coaching aspect 21 years ago? Even the venue where the fabricated molestation was supposed to have taken place was poorly chosen but interesting. Mia chose the attic of her country house, a place she should have realized I’d never go to because it is a tiny, cramped, enclosed spot where one can hardly stand up and I’m a major claustrophobe. The one or two times she asked me to come in there to look at something, I did, but quickly had to run out. Undoubtedly the attic idea came to her from the Dory Previn song, “With My Daddy in the Attic.” It was on the same record as the song Dory Previn had written about Mia’s betraying their friendship by insidiously stealing her husband, André, “Beware of Young Girls.” One must ask, did Dylan even write the letter or was it at least guided by her mother? Does the letter really benefit Dylan or does it simply advance her mother’s shabby agenda? That is to hurt me with a smear. There is even a lame attempt to do professional damage by trying to involve movie stars, which smells a lot more like Mia than Dylan.

    After all, if speaking out was really a necessity for Dylan, she had already spoken out months earlier in Vanity Fair. Here I quote Moses Farrow again: “Knowing that my mother often used us as pawns, I cannot trust anything that is said or written from anyone in the family.” Finally, does Mia herself really even believe I molested her daughter? Common sense must ask: Would a mother who thought her 7-year-old daughter was sexually abused by a molester (a pretty horrific crime), give consent for a film clip of her to be used to honor the molester at the Golden Globes?


    Of course, I did not molest Dylan. I loved her and hope one day she will grasp how she has been cheated out of having a loving father and exploited by a mother more interested in her own festering anger than her daughter’s well-being. Being taught to hate your father and made to believe he molested you has already taken a psychological toll on this lovely young woman, and Soon-Yi and I are both hoping that one day she will understand who has really made her a victim and reconnect with us, as Moses has, in a loving, productive way. No one wants to discourage abuse victims from speaking out, but one must bear in mind that sometimes there are people who are falsely accused and that is also a terribly destructive thing. (This piece will be my final word on this entire matter and no one will be responding on my behalf to any further comments on it by any party. Enough people have been hurt.)



    http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/09/op..._20140209&_r=0

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    Interesting read:



    5:15 PM, February 7 2014
    10 Undeniable Facts About the Woody Allen Sexual-Abuse Allegation


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    BY ABY BAKER/GETTY IMAGES.



    This week, a number of commentators have published articles containing incorrect and irresponsible claims regarding the allegation of Woody Allen’s having sexually abused his adopted daughter, Dylan Farrow. As the author of two lengthy, heavily researched and thoroughly fact-checked articles that deal with that allegation—the first published in 1992, when Dylan was seven, and the second last fall, when she was 28—I feel obliged to set the record straight. As such, I have compiled the following list of undeniable facts:
    1. Mia never went to the police about the allegation of sexual abuse. Her lawyer told her on August 5, 1992, to take the seven-year-old Dylan to a pediatrician, who was bound by law to report Dylan’s story of sexual violation to law enforcement and did so on August 6.
    2. Allen had been in therapy for alleged inappropriate behavior toward Dylan with a child psychologist before the abuse allegation was presented to the authorities or made public. Mia Farrow had instructed her babysitters that Allen was never to be left alone with Dylan.
    3. Allen refused to take a polygraph administered by the Connecticut state police. Instead, he took one from someone hired by his legal team. The Connecticut state police refused to accept the test as evidence. The state attorney, Frank Maco, says that Mia was never asked to take a lie-detector test during the investigation.
    4. Allen subsequently lost four exhaustive court battles—a lawsuit, a disciplinary charge against the prosecutor, and two appeals—and was made to pay more than $1 million in Mia’s legal fees. Judge Elliott Wilk, the presiding judge in Allen’s custody suit against Farrow, concluded that there is “no credible evidence to support Mr. Allen’s contention that Ms. Farrow coached Dylan or that Ms. Farrow acted upon a desire for revenge against him for seducing Soon-Yi.”
    5. In his 33-page decision, Judge Wilk found that Mr. Allen’s behavior toward Dylan was “grossly inappropriate and that measures must be taken to protect her.” The judge also recounts Farrow’s misgivings regarding Allen’s behavior toward Dylan from the time she was between two and three years old. According to the judge’s decision, Farrow told Allen, “You look at her [Dylan] in a sexual way. You fondled her . . . You don’t give her any breathing room. You look at her when she’s naked.”
    6. Dylan’s claim of abuse was consistent with the testimony of three adults who were present that day. On the day of the alleged assault, a babysitter of a friend told police and gave sworn testimony that Allen and Dylan went missing for 15 or 20 minutes, while she was at the house. Another babysitter told police and also swore in court that on that same day, she saw Allen with his head on Dylan’s lap facing her body, while Dylan sat on a couch “staring vacantly in the direction of a television set.” A French tutor for the family told police and testified that that day she found Dylan was not wearing underpants under her sundress. The first babysitter also testified she did not tell Farrow that Allen and Dylan had gone missing until after Dylan made her statements. These sworn accounts contradict Moses Farrow’s recollection of that day in People magazine.
    7. The Yale-New Haven Hospital Child Sex Abuse Clinic’s finding that Dylan had not been sexually molested, cited repeatedly by Allen’s attorneys, was not accepted as reliable by Judge Wilk, or by the Connecticut state prosecutor who originally commissioned them. The state prosecutor, Frank Maco, engaged the Yale-New Haven team to determine whether Dylan would be able to perceive facts correctly and be able to repeat her story on the witness stand. The panel consisted of two social workers and a pediatrician, Dr. John Leventhal, who signed off on the report but who never saw Dylan or Mia Farrow. No psychologists or psychiatrists were on the panel. The social workers never testified; the hospital team only presented a sworn deposition by Dr. Leventhal, who did not examine Dylan.

    All the notes from the report were destroyed. Her confidentiality was then violated, and Allen held a news conference on the steps of Yale University to announce the results of the case. The report concluded Dylan had trouble distinguishing fantasy from reality. (For example, she had told them there were “dead heads” in the attic and called sunset “the magic hour.” In fact, Mia kept wigs from her movies on styrofoam blocks in a trunk in the attic.) The doctor subsequently backed down from his contention.

    The Connecticut state police, the state attorney, and Judge Wilk all had serious reservations about the report’s reliability.
    8. Allen changed his story about the attic where the abuse allegedly took place. First, Allen told investigators he had never been in the attic where the alleged abuse took place. After his hair was found on a painting in the attic, he admitted that he might have stuck his head in once or twice. A top investigator concluded that his account was not credible.
    9. The state attorney, Maco, said publicly he did have probable cause to press charges against Allen but declined, due to the fragility of the “child victim.” Maco told me that he refused to put Dylan through an exhausting trial, and without her on the stand, he could not prosecute Allen.
    10. I am not a longtime friend of Mia Farrow’s, and I did not make any deal with her. I have been personally accused of helping my “long-time friend” Mia Farrow place the story that ran in Vanity Fair’s November 2013 issue as part of an effort to help launch Ronan Farrow’s media career. I have also been accused of agreeing to some type of deal with Mia Farrow guaranteeing that the sexual-abuse allegation against Woody Allen would be revisited. For the record, I met Mia Farrow for the first time in 2003, more than 10 years after the first piece was published, at a nonfiction play she appeared in for a benefit in Washington, D.C. I saw her and Dylan again the next day. That is the last time I saw her until I approached her in April 2013 to do a story about her family and how they had fared over the years. I talked to eight of her children, including Dylan and a reluctant Ronan. There was no deal of any kind. Moses Farrow declined to be interviewed for the 2013 piece.
    Read: The scathing 33-page decision from the presiding judge in Woody Allen’s 1992 custody suit against Mia Farrow.

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    Interesting indeed. Has Guilty stamped all over it.
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    Regarding Woody's statement above about his ex-girlfriend Stacey Nelkin:

    Nelkin also said that someone from Mia Farrow's camp had tried to convince Nelkin to testify against Allen during the custody battle. This person wanted her to "admit that I was 15 when we dated, and I said no, because I was not 15," Nelkin said. "I was 17, 18 and 19, and to me there's a big distinction between that, and I think they were looking for the fact that, you know, 15 is jail bait. Seventeen is a very different story. And I would not go along with that."

    Barbara Walters, Stacey Nelkin defend Woody Allen on TV - latimes.com

    A 17 year-old with a 52 year-old? And IMO there is not a huge difference between 15 and 17 years of age.

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