Kirsten Dunst: Relationships Work When a Man Can Be a Man and a Woman Can Be a Woman

[ConstanceSpry]

She adds, "And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I'm sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That's why relationships work."

I guess that explains why there are no long-term gay relationships.

[laynes]

Kirsten would be so disappointed in us. Mrs. Mohandas has a virtual set of b*lls that you wouldn't even be able to hold with both hands.

See this is great! I know a ton of men who are too insecure to deal with a woman with balls. I love it!

[MohandasKGanja]

See this is great! I know a ton of men who are too insecure to deal with a woman with balls. I love it!

My brother still says that my wife was my "tool beard" because when we got together, she had this amazing box of tools, while I didn't own a single screwdriver.

[Novice]

For a whole lot of people, what she says will make sense and they will find some truth in it. True feminism wouldn't fault her for it.

My understanding of Bella's post is that true feminism is having the choice of what works for you (eg Sahm - career mom - mixture of both - etc).

However, I would love her to explain who "the woman" is in Neil Patrick Harris' relationship?

[NickiDrea]

Whatever works for her is fine, but she shouldn't generalize all relationships like that.

[SoCalMarie]

She adds, "And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I'm sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That's why relationships work."

Thank you, oh wise one Dunst... Now it has all become so clear...

[Kittylady]

There are times when I let the Bloke be my Knight In Shining Armour, like

- when there is a spider and the cats are ignoring my demands to eat it
- when something is too damn heavy for me to move by myself
- when I CBA with something

[sputnik]

Explanation: Being a drunken banging-dudes-in-restrooms hobag got boring?

She wants someone who will at least hold her hair back while hurling.

lol wut?
or, you know, people grow out of their youthful partying ways? not everyone can be born with the souls (and behaviour) of law-abiding middle-aged adults.

[Shinola]

I agree the feminine gets underrated. But the feminine as I see it is powerful, and equating it with housework and being rescued is a way to deny that power.

Plus wasn't her mom a stage mother?

Also, easy to go all June Cleaver when you've made millions by age 30.

She's clearly not educated -- go back to school.

[Tiny Pixie]

Godammit, I'll never be in a successful relationship then, I'm just not needy enough to make it work !
Thank You Kristen, I understand now !

[ManxMouse]

As a straight woman who finds herself married to a trans woman, I find all this rigid gendery crap obnoxious, small-minded, and ignorant. There are a million different ways people make relationships work or not work, so blow it out your arse, Snaggletooth.

[Bellatheball]

My understanding of Bella's post is that true feminism is having the choice of what works for you (eg Sahm - career mom - mixture of both - etc).

However, I would love her to explain who "the woman" is in Neil Patrick Harris' relationship?

Yep, that's all I meant. My mom worked so it never occurred to me to be a stay at home mom. Not once. If I could do it over again, I'd stay home in a heart beat. As I've said before, I can spend my entire day taking care of injured people but I'll never impact them as much as I can sitting at the dinner table with my kids. In general, there is a lot of pressure not to voice this opinion in society. It's too bad it's met with (at times) venom and some notion that being a mom/wife first means you are anything less than what you could be.

[Novice]

Or also the opposite Bella, that as a woman without children (for whatever reason) one is "not quite a woman" or a lesser woman for that.
We should have the ability to choose our own path, and not be criticised or compared to others on a different path negatively just because it is not what the judge considers the "norm".

* not lecturing you Bella, as I'm sure you are aware!

As a straight woman who finds herself married to a trans woman, I find all this rigid gendery crap obnoxious, small-minded, and ignorant. There are a million different ways people make relationships work or not work, so blow it out your arse, Snaggletooth.

I hope that you and your spouse are doing ok. Your still being with your spouse is testament to you, and I wish you well.

[Bellatheball]

Agree totally.

MM, I just attended a lecture on LBGTQ medicine. The woman giving the talk spent a long time talking about trans* patients. It was interesting to hear her explain how the majority of the world lives in a binary system (men, women) as opposed to the LBGTQ community, some of whom, fluctuate on a continuum.

[Flygirl]

. There are a million different ways people make relationships work or not work, so blow it out your arse, Snaggletooth.

That's sig-worthy there!

Whatever works for her is fine, but she shouldn't generalize all relationships like that.

Totally agree, but I also agree with WCG that she doesn't even know what the hell works. Being with a boyfriend for a couple of years does ain't shit. Call me when you've been married 25, Kirsten.