Bridget Moynahan/Tom Brady baby name game - Page 6

DVS_one · August 30th, 2007, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweetie

Nice mouth, you should really try to clean that up.

Nana, I am neither a divorce man or naive, I am just a woman that can make it on her own and don't have to live off something that's supposed to support a child. And what the hell...."if he was a real man he would have come back and stayed with her to help raise the child"...if that isn't some 1950's thinking I just don't know what is. And by the way, please quit being so rude. You always want to be so snappy.

stupid brain, you really ought to try to educate it

queenb3577 · August 30th, 2007, 09:54 AM

Sweetie, if a why shouldn't a non custodial parent pay child support for children that they helped bring into this world? A custodial parent pays a lot more for the child(ren) than a non custodial parent so why shouldn't a custodial parent be able to decide what to do with that money coming in, as long as the kids are taken care of, that money is just worked into the budget. If the kids are starving or wearing clothes that don't fit and the parent is out drinking, then yes I see a problem, but if not, what is the big deal?

Sweetie · August 30th, 2007, 09:54 AM

Right....if you say so, DVS.

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Originally Posted by queenb3577

Sweetie, if a why shouldn't a non custodial parent pay child support for children that they helped bring into this world? A custodial parent pays a lot more for the child(ren) than a non custodial parent so why shouldn't a custodial parent be able to decide what to do with that money coming in, as long as the kids are taken care of, that money is just worked into the budget. If the kids are starving or wearing clothes that don't fit and the parent is out drinking, then yes I see a problem, but if not, what is the big deal?

There's not a big deal, I just view CHILD support as exactly what it's called....CHILD support.

DVS_one · August 30th, 2007, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by gas_chick

Well my loser ex doesn't pay child support and never has and I have to work and scrape by but if I were to get child support it would go for what my child needed and not a night out on the town unless it was a night out for her.

that sucks...
It took me 5 yrs to get the c/s established ... I took my time and it paid off. Before that I too worked and paid 100% for my kids .... now he is paying me back.

As for my going out on his money, ehhh no worries, not like I do much at all... and no its not a nite out for them, I give them money for the movies and things, and drive them, and pick them up, including friends....

THANKS ALICE!!!
The kids are pretty lucky to have so many people care about them.

I dont get what the idea is behind this child support thing.

In my state it is 25% of disposable income from the non custodial parent. (2 kids)

Well lets see, the custodial parent must provide a certain way of life. So the childrens portion of rent or housing costs.... (in my case 2 kids one me would be 2/3 of the rent, utilities, groceries, car expenses, insurances, medications, education, and a myriad of other expenses. These are expenses that are incurred with having a child. A child is created by two people, therefore 2 people must incur this expense. Also, I raise them, a 24* a day job for about 324 days a year. They stay with him 21 days a year.

so can someone explain to me why "taking" child support is a bad thing again? I dont know about the rest of you but I earn mine.

queenb3577 · August 30th, 2007, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweetie

There's not a big deal, I just view CHILD support as exactly what it's called....CHILD support.

Right and if I put in 95% of my income towards my children and their needs and happen to spend $20 of their child support I still don't see why you would have a problem with that. My ex is driving around in a brand new car because he doesn't spend all of his income on his kids like me. All the while he expects to have a say in everything and see them whenever he wants, which is fine with me, which is also why he does not question me on where his money goes...he KNOWS his kids are taken care of and looks at his child support as paying me back for what I have already put in for the kids.

Sweetie · August 30th, 2007, 10:05 AM

I don't think I ever said "taking child support is a bad thing", I said spending the money on YOURSELF is. It's my opinion, if you don't like it then I don't know what to tell you.

Glad that works out for you Queen, sounds like you have it down pat.

queenb3577 · August 30th, 2007, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweetie

I don't think I ever said "taking child support is a bad thing", I said spending the money on YOURSELF is. It's my opinion, if you don't like it then I don't know what to tell you.

Glad that works out for you Queen, sounds like you have it down pat.

I do. My ex and I don't get along, but we manage to figure everything out for the kids, and he knows that they are taken care of. Trust me, I am the one who takes them to every appointment, school shopping, etc. and god forbid I ask him to, he's too busy..he also knows that his child support doesn't even cover how much I pay for groceries for the kids each week, so he's not gonna complain if I spend some on myself once in a while. I'm not even saying that I do this often, but when I put my money in the bank and then put his child support in the bank, they both go towards what we need at that time or what bills we need to pay at that time, if there is extra we all get something for ourselves.

Mel1973 · August 30th, 2007, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweetie

She can't buy her self something because it's not called "mother support" it's calld "CHILD support" and that and only that is what it should be used for.

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Originally Posted by Sweetie

Nice mouth, you should really try to clean that up.

Nana, I am neither a divorce man or naive, I am just a woman that can make it on her own and don't have to live off something that's supposed to support a child. And what the hell...."if he was a real man he would have come back and stayed with her to help raise the child"...if that isn't some 1950's thinking I just don't know what is. And by the way, please quit being so rude. You always want to be so snappy.

Well, I get child support plus I work. Plus, when it's time for my child to go to the doctor, I'm the one who LOSES money to take off work and SPENDS money to meet the copay. I'm the one who buys the school clothes, sends lunch money or buys his lunchables, baseball cards, Playstation 2, Nintendo DS, cds, dvds, drops by Blockbuster every Tuesday with my specific instructions on what he needs ... I'm the one who sits up nights worrying about him when he's sick, goes to get the medicine at 3:00AM or a damn popsicle if that might make him feel better. I'm the one who has to keep the VeggieTales CD in my car and I have to listen to it and his Junie B. Jones cd/books.
In my own opinion that's what child SUPPORT means - that and a helluva lot more, not money. His dad pays the child support and he loves our son but the money that he pays doesn't come close to covering what my son NEEDS.

Chilly Willy · August 30th, 2007, 10:21 AM

*standing ovations*

More power to you single moms!!!!! I have the highest respect for you! It's women who make this world a loving, comfy place!

Mel summed it all up.

DVS_one · August 30th, 2007, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel1973

Well, I get child support plus I work. Plus, when it's time for my child to go to the doctor, I'm the one who LOSES money to take off work and SPENDS money to meet the copay. I'm the one who buys the school clothes, sends lunch money or buys his lunchables, baseball cards, Playstation 2, Nintendo DS, cds, dvds, drops by Blockbuster every Tuesday with my specific instructions on what he needs ... I'm the one who sits up nights worrying about him when he's sick, goes to get the medicine at 3:00AM or a damn popsicle if that might make him feel better. I'm the one who has to keep the VeggieTales CD in my car and I have to listen to it and his Junie B. Jones cd/books.
In my own opinion that's what child SUPPORT means - that and a helluva lot more, not money. His dad pays the child support and he loves our son but the money that he pays doesn't come close to covering what my son NEEDS.

As usual, another TKO delivered by Mel.

Exactly!

Sweetie · August 30th, 2007, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel1973

Well, I get child support plus I work. Plus, when it's time for my child to go to the doctor, I'm the one who LOSES money to take off work and SPENDS money to meet the copay. I'm the one who buys the school clothes, sends lunch money or buys his lunchables, baseball cards, Playstation 2, Nintendo DS, cds, dvds, drops by Blockbuster every Tuesday with my specific instructions on what he needs ... I'm the one who sits up nights worrying about him when he's sick, goes to get the medicine at 3:00AM or a damn popsicle if that might make him feel better. I'm the one who has to keep the VeggieTales CD in my car and I have to listen to it and his Junie B. Jones cd/books.
In my own opinion that's what child SUPPORT means - that and a helluva lot more, not money. His dad pays the child support and he loves our son but the money that he pays doesn't come close to covering what my son NEEDS.

That's good, then you aren't spending your child support on your self, you clearly put it toward the childs needs. That's what should be done.

nana55 · August 30th, 2007, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel1973

Well, I get child support plus I work. Plus, when it's time for my child to go to the doctor, I'm the one who LOSES money to take off work and SPENDS money to meet the copay. I'm the one who buys the school clothes, sends lunch money or buys his lunchables, baseball cards, Playstation 2, Nintendo DS, cds, dvds, drops by Blockbuster every Tuesday with my specific instructions on what he needs ... I'm the one who sits up nights worrying about him when he's sick, goes to get the medicine at 3:00AM or a damn popsicle if that might make him feel better. I'm the one who has to keep the VeggieTales CD in my car and I have to listen to it and his Junie B. Jones cd/books.
In my own opinion that's what child SUPPORT means - that and a helluva lot more, not money. His dad pays the child support and he loves our son but the money that he pays doesn't come close to covering what my son NEEDS.

perfect post. My daughter is a divorced mom and what you say is so true.

AliceInWonderland · August 30th, 2007, 11:47 AM

yeah it'd be nice if every kid from a broken home got their needs met

**PurpleHaze** · August 30th, 2007, 12:38 PM

perfect post mel!

and yeah, more power to single moms!

also most guys think if they pay child support they are square. there is so much more things there money can't buy that the moms lovingly do. so if they treat themselves to something nice... go ahead

leapinglilies · August 30th, 2007, 02:26 PM

i read this whole thread through and i realized that the only people arguing that archaic 'mans name means more' angle were named Sweetie and PrettyGirl. both very feminine, attractive names. i'm not a psychologist but maybe they have 'daddy' issues and need male role model reenforcement or whatever. i dunno, i could just be fugged up...