Salma Hayek: I wanted to have a boy

mrs.v · March 5th, 2008, 11:38 AM

Salma Hayek: I Wanted to Have a Boy
Wednesday March 5, 2008

Sure, Salma Hayek is thrilled with her 6-month-old daughter, Valentina.
But the new mom, 41, says in the new issue of Glamour, "I have something to confess, I wanted a boy."
Why?
"Probably because I was afraid," she says. "I think women suffer more a bit more than boys, and there is always conflict between mother and daughters.
"But now that she's here, I'm so happy she's a girl," Hayek goes on to say. "And I can't imagine there ever being conflict between us, because I'm in a
state of innocence where I love everything she does."
Even though she is engaged to French businessman François Henri Pinault — the father of her child — the actress says she doesn't feel any rush to make it down the aisle.
"Do I think we are going to get married? Probably. Will it make a difference? I hope not. I don't have a need for marriage.
"You want to grow old with someone, you want to have a partner and to have children — we have all those things," she says.
"Some people need the commitment. Maybe we'll just make the party!"

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AliceInWonderland · March 5th, 2008, 11:43 AM

well you waited to long; aren't you more likely to have a girl the older you are.

darksithbunny · March 5th, 2008, 11:50 AM

Wow. I hope her daughter doesn't read that someday.

AliceInWonderland · March 5th, 2008, 11:50 AM

^ i know. what a completely juvenile way of thinking on her part.

Dixie Normos · March 5th, 2008, 11:59 AM

^yeah, I don't understand her POV, women suffer more, so you'd rather give birth to the agressor than the victim? It's a weird old world. makes just about as much sense as guys who'd say they'd rather have boys because they know how THEY treated women, and they wouldn't want their daughter that bad off. How about you just treat everyone with respect, esp. those weaker than you, then you won't have to take out your guilt complex on your child.

AliceInWonderland · March 5th, 2008, 12:17 PM

^ yeah really, she's such a bitch.

sputnik · March 5th, 2008, 01:19 PM

i don't think it's bitchy. a lot of women would rather have one or the other but it doesn't mean they love their kid any less if it's a different sex.
my best friend wanted a girl. she's having a boy. it's not that she was adamant about only wanting girls, she just had an instinctive preference for a girl. i'm the opposite. if i ever have kids i'd prefer boys. partly for the same reasons she cited. but i don't see it as wanting to give birth to 'the agressor' instead of the victim - part of why i'd want boys is so i could raise them to see women as equals and without any of that bullshit about gender roles. i think mostly it's because you just want to spare your kid any suffering and on a lot of levels, men do have it easier than women. i admit it's not rational, but a lot of being a partent and having kids isn't rational.

Kirsten89 · March 5th, 2008, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by sputnik

i don't think it's bitchy. a lot of women would rather have one or the other but it doesn't mean they love their kid any less if it's a different sex.
my best friend wanted a girl. she's having a boy. it's not that she was adamant about only wanting girls, she just had an instinctive preference for a girl. i'm the opposite. if i ever have kids i'd prefer boys.

Exactly. I know lots of people that prefer one sex before its born.

Fabularosa · March 5th, 2008, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Kirsten89

Exactly. I know lots of people that prefer one sex before its born.

Yeah, before it's born ... but it's thoughtless and unkind of her to say to a magazine that she wanted a boy. Her daughter(s) will read that one day.

gas_chick · March 5th, 2008, 01:49 PM

I think I would have sent my kid back if she hadn't been a girl.

Fabularosa · March 5th, 2008, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by gas_chick

I think I would have sent my kid back if she hadn't been a girl.

Back to where?

qwerty · March 5th, 2008, 01:59 PM

I don't have a problem with the comment. She says she's happy with and loves her daughter to pieces so what's the problem?

gas_chick · March 5th, 2008, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Fabularosa

Back to where?

The stork she came from of course.

Icepik · March 5th, 2008, 02:10 PM

Oh hell, that's not a horrible thing to say! I wanted a girl soooo badly when I found out I was pregnant. Needless to say, I had a boy. I couldn't be happier and love that my only child is a boy.

LynnieD · March 5th, 2008, 02:12 PM

I think that some women get 'feelings', like 'oh I know I'm having a boy' and therefore, maybe THINK they want a boy simply because they have a premonition. I thought I was having a boy the first time and couldn't believe it when they told me otherwise. Wasn't upset, just stunned since I thought FOR SURE that she was a he.

I'm very happy she's a she...