John Mayer is actively searching for his future wife

**Honey** · February 12th, 2008, 11:35 PM

John Mayer is a bit obsessed with finding his wife, but thankfully it sounds like she's not going to be Paris Hilton. The singer (Mayer, thankyouverymuch) denied Hilton's aggressive advances at a Grammy post party on Sunday night. Back to the wife though, Mr. Fitness, seen here running in Santa Monica yesterday, recently talked candidly to Best Life magazine about that search and how the day he met Jessica Simpson was the day he grew up. Here's highlights:

On finding the one: “I think about my wife all the time. I kind of obsess on it, and what I want to find is a person who can speak those kinds of magic words. I mean ‘No complaints’ is a great way to live. Also, I want a woman who doesn’t hear ‘How are you?’ as ‘I would like you to come up with something dramatic now that will allow me to sit in front of you and give you more attention than I would have if you had just said No complaints.’ When I find the person I can relate to on that level and who is also a pinup and who also says ‘Can I please take pictures of your ass?’ then I am going to get married to her. That I can promise you.”
On his fears: “My fear is that I go up to the girl of my dreams and say, ‘I’m sorry, but I’ve got to say hello to you,’ and she slides the stool back and gets up and walks away, saying, ‘Not for me, Bub. I don’t want anything to do with you.’ And she says that because of something in my past. I mean, I know how to be a celebrity. I know how to be a guy on the street. I know how to roll with the punches. I know how to do the whole thing. And my past is actually pretty sterling. But when I think about my wife, I worry. I worry about what she thinks when she reads about me in US Weekly. It’s all vapor, nothing, ether. But I worry about it. I worry about what she thinks."
On his personal life "I tell you this without fear. I don’t feel like anybody knows my personal life. My personal life is 100 percent intact. Where I ate last night or who I ate with is not my personal life. You want to say the name Jessica Simpson? Say the name Jessica Simpson. You want to say Cameron Diaz, say Cameron Diaz. That’s not my personal life. My personal life is what happens in my heart and my head. Nobody knows what’s going on in my head.”