Bridget Moynahan/Tom Brady baby name game

[Sweetie]

Yeah, honey, your just fugged up. I don't have daddy issues, had mama issues though.
I just have a issue with women expecting to be paid for raising their own children. I think the man should pay but I don't think he should pay for her a new dress or a new hair cut, it should be for the kids clothes and the kids haircut.
Thanks for the comment though.

[leapinglilies]

see, you just said it! you have issues with your mom! and really, i hope i didn't upset you with my post...

[Chilly Willy]

The issues I have! but they don't influence my opinion on this.

[sluce]

maybe we should start a thead in off topic entitled: Things that eff'd me up in life. Then we can all share our stories -lol

[sensual]

Originally Posted by Mel1973

Well, I get child support plus I work. Plus, when it's time for my child to go to the doctor, I'm the one who LOSES money to take off work and SPENDS money to meet the copay. I'm the one who buys the school clothes, sends lunch money or buys his lunchables, baseball cards, Playstation 2, Nintendo DS, cds, dvds, drops by Blockbuster every Tuesday with my specific instructions on what he needs ... I'm the one who sits up nights worrying about him when he's sick, goes to get the medicine at 3:00AM or a damn popsicle if that might make him feel better. I'm the one who has to keep the VeggieTales CD in my car and I have to listen to it and his Junie B. Jones cd/books.
In my own opinion that's what child SUPPORT means - that and a helluva lot more, not money. His dad pays the child support and he loves our son but the money that he pays doesn't come close to covering what my son NEEDS.

Applause dammit.

[Tati]

Originally Posted by PrettyGirl

That's stupid. Bridget gives her baby Tom's first and middle name in 'honor' of her former lover, but she doesn't give the child his father's last name? What's the point in that?

Perhaps the point is that she, you know, gave him her name instead? Seems like an arbitrary toss-up to me. Even if they were together, why should the kid automatically get his name?

That child deserves to have his father's name.

Because the father's name is somehow better than the mother's? Why doesn't the child "deserve" to have his mother's name? Especially considering that she did give him two of his father's names and can't exactly give her son any of her feminine names, now can she?

Tom and Bridget's relationship ended before she knew she was pregnant and just because they didn't marry doesn't mean their son shouldn't have his father's name.

Sure. Maybe. OR! Here's an idea - he could have her name! What difference does it make?

You want the man to be there for the baby but because he didn't marry you, you have to 'pay the man back' by not giving his child his name?

Or, you know, it's a choice between two valid options, and she (maybe even they) picked the one that fit best.

No man is ENTITLED to have his child have his name but 99% of people give their children their father's name.

Ah, yes - and this would be one of the 78% of statistics that are completely pulled out of one's ass.

If some women (we'll call them Group A) are so anti-men and hate tradition or whatever you call it, then why are so many other, completely separate women (we'll call them Group B) so desperate to find a man?

Fixed that for ya. You see what you were doing there?

Tom Brady has a child. He didn't rape this woman. She opened her legs because she wanted to. He was there.

Well, blow me down and give the fellow a medal! And of course, give his child his last name for some completely arbitrary reason, because gosh darn it, he's earned it!

[Laurent]

This thread is fucking depressing. I can't believe in 2007 people still think like it's 1957.

And for what it's worth, unless a man is making a shit load of money, your average Joe isn't paying enough child support to support the mom living the high life on his dime. That's not reality.

[AliceInWonderland]

i know its sad ^ to both things you said....

[DoveFeatheredRaven]

I think she can name the kid any damn thing she wants. The easy solution would be to hyphenate both last names and use that but if he wasn't around for the pregnancy then she doesn't owe him anything. It doesn't have to mean she is being vindictive.

(And yeah, child support amounts are usually a joke. My sister is getting child support on my niece for what her ex hubby made when my niece was born, not on the much larger sum he makes now. She could get more but doesn't want to have to give up more time with my niece in the summers. He ain't complainin')