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Thread: Singer Duffy reveals she was drugged and raped while being held captive

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    Singer Duffy reveals she was drugged and raped while being held captive

    The Welsh performer also wrote that many of her fans had wondered what happened to her in an Instagram post.


    The singer Duffy has said she was drugged and raped after being held captive by an attacker.

    In a post on her verified Instagram account, the Welsh performer added that her "recovery took time".

    The 35-year-old singer, whose full name is Aimee Anne Duffy, had a UK number one album with her release Rockferry in 2008.
    The following year she won three BRIT Awards (British Breakthrough, Best Female Solo and Best British Album) and a Grammy (Best Pop Vocal Album).

    She wrote in her post on Tuesday: "You can only imagine the amount of times I thought about writing this. The way I would write it, how I would feel thereafter.

    "Well, not entirely sure why now is the right time, and what it is that feels exciting and liberating for me to talk.

    "I cannot explain it. Many of you wonder what happened to me, where did I disappear to and why.
    "A journalist contacted me, he found a way to reach me and I told him everything this past summer.
    "He was kind and it felt so amazing to finally speak.

    "The truth is, and please trust me I am OK and safe now, I was raped and drugged and held captive over some days. Of course I survived. The recovery took time."

    The singer's best known singles include Warwick Avenue, Mercy and Stepping Stone.

    Her statement was the only post on her Instagram page on Tuesday night.

    It continued: "There's no light way to say it. But I can tell you in the last decade, the thousands and thousands of days I committed to wanting to feel the sunshine in my heart again, the sun does now shine

    "You wonder why I did not choose to use my voice to express my pain? I did not want to show the world the sadness in my eyes.

    "I asked myself, how can I sing from the heart if it is broken? And slowly it unbroke. In the following weeks I will be posting a spoken interview.

    "If you have any questions I would like to answer them, in the spoken interview, if I can.

    "I have a sacred love and sincere appreciation for your kindness over the years. You have been friends. I want to thank you for that x.

    "Duffy."

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    How horrifying! I wonder if it was a crazed stalker or evil ex or something.
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    I always thought she was kind of cute and quirky. I don't know anything about her now or this whole situation, but it's terrible if this happened to her.
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    I used to wonder where she went, but I never thought about something so awful. Poor woman.

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    I have no idea who she is but that’s fucking awful
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    I hope the guy who did all this to her didn't get away with it. I always wondered where she disappeared to too

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    I have no idea who she is but that’s fucking awful
    This was one of her most well known songs. Listening to these lyrics now though...

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    My favorite song of hers is Warwick avenue.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarzy View Post

    This was one of her most well known songs. Listening to these lyrics now though...
    I know. It's going to be hard to sing her most well-known song now. How awful.

    I remember she became famous at the same time as Amy Winehouse so she had to use her last name as a stage name.
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    I love "Mercy". I was wondering what happened to her. AGC did have a blind about her a couple of years back, but it said that she was tired of music execs trying to assault her/make her put out for tracks. I guess now she feels that she can be open about it. Poor thing. She has one of the most distinctive voices in pop/rock. I hope she resumes her career if she is ready to.
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    She was a Jools Holland discovery for me - that show introduced me to so many artists whose music I would never have heard otherwise (I'm looking at you, Manu Chao).

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YHqTwpQAWs4
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    She posted a long message detailing what happened, this is part of it

    It was my birthday, I was drugged at a restaurant, I was drugged then for four weeks and travelled to a foreign country. I can’t remember getting on the plane and came round in the back of a travelling vehicle. I was put into a hotel room and the perpetrator returned and raped me. I remember the pain and trying to stay conscious in the room after it happened. I was stuck with him for another day, he didn’t look at me, I was to walk behind him, I was somewhat conscious and withdrawn. I could have been disposed of by him. I contemplated running away to the neighbouring city or town, as he slept, but had no cash and I was afraid he would call the police on me, for running away, and maybe they would track me down as a missing person. I do not know how I had the strength to endure those days, I did feel the presence of something that helped me stay alive. I flew back with him, I stayed calm and as normal as someone could in a situation like that, and when I got home, I sat, dazed, like a zombie. I knew my life was in immediate danger, he made veiled confessions of wanting to kill me. With what little strength I had, my instinct was to then run, to run and find somewhere to live that he could not find.

    The perpetrator drugged me in my own home in the four weeks, I do not know if he raped me there during that time, I only remember coming round in the car in the foreign country and the escape that would happen by me fleeing in the

    days following that. I do not know why I was not drugged overseas; it leads me to think I was given a class A drug and he could not travel with it.

    After it happened, someone I knew came to my house and saw me on my balcony staring into space, wrapped in a blanket. I cannot remember getting home. The person said I was yellow in colour and I was like a dead person. They were obviously frightened but did not

    want to interfere, they had never seen anything like it.
    Thereafter, it didn’t feel safe to go to the police. I felt if anything went wrong, I would be dead, and he would have killed me. I could not risk being mishandled or it being all over the news during my danger. I really had to follow what instincts I had. I have told two female police officers, during different threatening incidents in the past decade, it is on record.

    And as I grieved what 'I must have done to invite this into my life', I read something that said, “in the end, it’s never between them and you, it’s always between them and God”. That helped me a lot in the absence of justice.

    Once someone threatened to ‘out' my story and I had to tell a female police officer what information the person held about me, and why the blackmail was so frightening. The second incident was when three men tried to enter my house as intruders, I told the second female officer about the rape then also. The identity of the rapist should be only handled by the police, and that is between me and them.

    The first person I ever told was a psychologist, months later, a leading expert in the UK in complex trauma and sexual violence. I have no idea how I was so lucky to find her all those years ago, her beautiful blue eyes, pink sofa, huge library, amazing brain and skill. Without her I may not have made it through. I was high risk of suicide in the aftermath. She got to know me, saw me as a person, learned about me and navigated me. She did it very gently. I could not look her in the eyes for the first eight or so sessions, eye contact was something I struggled with. The thought of recovering was almost impossible.

    In the aftermath I would not see someone, a physical soul, for sometimes weeks and weeks and weeks at a time, remaining alone. I would take off my pyjamas and throw them in the fire and put on another set. My hair would get so knotted from not brushing it, as I grieved, I cut it all off.
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    Poor Aimee.
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    How horrible!
    Poor baby.

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