Alice, I love your avatar!!
*raises hand* thats true for me A*O!
Alice, I love your avatar!!
I think she sounds very sensible.
Smart. Really... It's true. I think a lot of women feel they're not "women" unless they have a baby, and I know a lot of them have babies to "solidify" the marriage.
I wish all children were planned and loved and wanted. And she is just saying SHE doesn't need babies to validate her marrige and good for her. I am fullfilled by my children and they were all very wanted. Good for her and good for me. And when a woman is dating a man the question is "When are you getting married?" Then when you DO get married it's "When are you going to have kids?" I have a good friend who is married and they want ZERO children. I think it's cool that they know that. Of course they are hounded by THE question.
My husband always wanting children, but I always offered to have him carry the baby - I would gladly mow the yard. Sadly, he never took me up on it. Jack was born a month prematurely, because at 6 months, my body had started to reject the baby. An emergency C-section later, Jack was hooked up to IVs, a heart monitor, feeding tube, and respiratory 3 hours after - he couldn’t breath on his own. Fast forward to now, he is about to turn three years old, and after which he will start school early because he does not talk yet.
I own two Dalmatians, two cats, and I own a home. Out of all of these things: animals, property, vehicles, my job: my son is my most precious and demanding. But it has to be, or I am not a parent. My husband and I both work, and sometimes I regret that - especially since Jack was a handful since he was a fetus! I do not look down on mothers who stay at home with the children, I KNOW that is one of the hardest jobs - with little or no appreciation - out there. I think it is a constant struggle as a mother, a woman, to know what is best for your child (when to but in, and when to let them learn for themselves), what is the best thing for themselves (career, school, go-go dancer), and how to do it all. And dealing with the constant judgment from others.
I adore Dita very much, she knows she is not ready - and maybe never will be - to take on such a monumental responsibility. Sometimes I wish I would have stuck to my guns, and that is why Jack is the only one I have - and he’s enough! But now, the older he gets, the more often I get asked - “So, when are you guys going to have another one?”
AND since I have already had one, when I say I am not ready that must mean my marriage is in trouble (although I find the OPPOSITE to be true in most cases). Or I must hate my son, or care more about my career…
Damned if you do, Damned if you don’t….
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^I know, I agree. The world is not fucked, people are.
There really are women/people out there who claim a woman isn't a real, complete, woman unless she's expected and given birth to a child(ren)!!!!!
Kudos to her for being so open and honest. Especially in a time when many female celebs pop kids out like hot buns and then do anything but mothering their offspring (Zitney comes to mind) or acquire kids like their fashion or ego accessories (the Jolies, Madonnas, Beckhams come to mind).
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I don't have a liking for children. I mean, I like them, as long as they're not mine. My mother and I fight for hours because of this because she can't understand why I wouldn't want kids. For me, it's because of the career I want. If I have a child, I want to take care of it and be there every day. But I want a career too. So, I'm choosing, and I chose the career. Now, I don't tell any of my friends this, because to them, everyone eventually has a kid. We're all in highschool, but I hang out with a more hip hop crowd and even the boys want to eventually be fathers. I just can't raise a child; they annoy me. But then again, something my mom said got to me. Who will be there for me when I get old? I mean, my husband or whatever could die, and my sister's going to have her own life. My family has their own issues. So who would I be left with?
But then again, my child might not choose to take care of me. Also, if I have a child, I don't think I'd be a good mother. My mom always made me feel loved and cared for and she was never selfish...ever. I can't do that. Although I don't agree with the way my mom raised me on certain issues, I do think she's a wonderful mother. She tried her best, and that's more than enough. I never felt scared with her, even when our family was in trouble. She always seemed so sure of herself, and she always brought the family back from whatever trouble we had. I don't think I could ever be like that, and I think every child deserves a parent like mine.
If you are in high school...kids should annoy the fuck out of you.
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