Trixie, no we don't use real silverware..lol. It's all plastic and paper products. It's a collective effort on everyone's part. Even the guys, my male cousins and my cousins' husbands, most of them are out there setting up tables, grilling, climbing up trees, putting lights or piñatas up. Everyone does their part. For night parties at the beach, the guys are out there helping start the fires, making beer runs, you know the things guys do. We don't charge them, we don't keep track of what they eat. They're doing what they can, being helping, providing man power and we appreciate it. Diane's the only one who's the freeloader it seems like. The minimalist of things, she can't even follow through or be there on time.
Our next big get-together is a family reunion on July 16th in honor of our grandmother who passed away 4 yrs ago. Me, my sister and 2 other cousins are already in charge of that. I'm personally not inviting Diane but she's already heard about it and she'll go. She won't bring a thing I'm sure. If not asked she won't contribute but she will show up. Heck, even when told to bring something she makes sure it's so late no one uses her stuff up. So go figure. I'm not going to cause a war with her over this, she's my cousin, but yep, you can say I don't have a high opinion of her. It's not that I don't like her, I don't like that habit she has of showing up so late, eating all the food and then taking off. I think she's a taker and rude, religious or not. When I was single with no kids, I wasn't like that. I don't think a lot of people are. Just counting my lucky stars I'm not married to someone like that. I've had boyfriends like that who'd like going to parties, drink all the beer and they wouldn't even bother to bring a case of their own. There are just some people like that. I don't know if they're just cheap or scavengers, people who will take what they can if it's offered to them. Who knows!