Not sure if I'm posting this in the correct section but here it goes. I'm wondering if anyone here has a penny-pinching relative? I have a large family and most of us are married with kids. With lack of time and our lives being pulled in all directions with demands of spouses and children, we still manage to get together for family events at least once a month. We usually have potlucks for holidays. Yesterday for example, was Memorial Day and we got together for a picnic at the beach. Most of the cousins go, and we all pitch in and bring a dish. In my case we usually make or take the main course.
Yesterday for Memorial Day we had a potluck at the beach. My husband and I took hamburger meat, hotdogs, pork ribs, all the buns, all the condiments, cheese, 2 liters of soda, side salad and the dressing. Not to mention we took the grill, the charcoal and the lighter fluid. We even took our boat to take family members out for a cruise, to make it more fun. You know, different intervals. My sister took macaroni salad and kids drinks. My other sister took 5 desserts. My mother brought all the ice, some coolers, potato salad. In other words mostly everyone chips in...except 1. I have a single cousin (we'll call her Diane), who shows up late for every family event and family party. ALWAYS. We're not talking about 1 hr. We're talking about 3 or 4 hrs late. She says she's bringing 'something', but its always something like 1 liter of soda and 1 bag of chips. She's known for being a penny pincher and doesn't put much effort in whatever she says she's bringing. It's never anything she cooks herself, it's usually some inexpensive snack you know she got all the clearance isle at the store.
Well, whatever the reason, Diane shows up so late that people have already eaten and are stuffed after dessert. Her items hardly ever get eaten. She shows up (like yesterday) serves herself 2 or 3 plates of food, then she leaves...and takes her food contribution with her. I think it's so tacky. I've told Diane before 'Be on time. Showing up 3 or 4 hrs later doesn't count as showing up. It's just showing up to eat the food'. She still does it.
Yesterday Diane brought 2 liters of soda and 2 bags of Lays chips. Most of the family had left but she sure managed to stack her plate full of food twice and just as everyone's packing up and getting ready to go, she says she'd taking her stuff since 'no one opened them'. I did say in front of 2 other cousins of mine, "Are you serious, Diane? You showed up late, ate the food and you have the nerve to take your soda?' She laughed and said "Yep". When she left I saw her walking out with her bag of 2 sodas and I said "You're amazing. We helped with the set-up, we all got here on time, we helped with the clean up and there you go taking your soda". She just walked away. She doesn't care.
I voiced my opinion to several relatives that I'm sick of Diane and I'm not inviting her to any more family events. Most of my cousins are annoyed by her behavior too but no one has the guts to say anything to her directly. I'm the only one has basically told her in her face yet it doesn't really phase her. She has no shame and I know she will continue showing up hours late to events and then being cheap and taking off with whatever food contribution she thinks she's making. In my eyes it's no real contribution because she shows up so ridiculously late no one ever gets to eat her stupid chips or $3.99 box of brownies. But she sure manages to sit down, enjoy and stack her plate full of our food and then leave without helping any of us with the clean up.
Do any of you have relatives like this? Why are they like this, are they just cheap? I can't figure her out. You try and keep the family united but relatives like this are just plain aggravating. It's so rude. I'd be embarrassed to constantly show up so late to events. Even more to eat the food and then take back my $1 soda liter or $2 bag of chips after I stuffed myself. I'd at least stick around and help with the clean up since others helped set up and I didn't even do that.
BTW, whenever we have leftovers or items that are non-perishable after family parties, we just save them for the next event. Diane knows this. We told her the 2 sodas we were saving for next time. She said "No, I'll take them". The nerve! lol