Who was the first person to say, "See that chicken there? I'm gonna eat the next thing that comes outta its bum"?
Very sorry to hear that, Mmevertgina. That's exactly why comments like that don't sit well with me. If people want to think that about their own child then fair enough, but it's when they say it about other people's kids that I think it's offensive.
Mme Vertigina, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think a lot of the things people say to rationalize a death is often very infuriating for the affected party. I was at a funeral of a friend who died at 25 and people were telling her family that at least they had her all this time and she didn't die at infancy! People will say the most ridiculous things in funerals.
What if Superman is psychotic and everyone can see that he's Clark Kent but they just play along not to set him off?
Thank you all
What I went through was awful, but to lose a child that is out and about...I think it only gets harder. I have snapped at a few people who said the absolutely wrong thing. I try to be forgiving, but really wonder where people's common sense disappears to sometimes.
People say what they think they would want to hear in the same situation. When my mother died people kept telling me I was so strong all the time, it happened suddenly and some of the family kind of fell to pieces and I was the youngest so had to keep it together for a few months. I know people were trying to be encouraging but they'd say things like "you're so strong for someone your age, I don't know how you do it, I wouldn't be able to" which made me feel like a zombie or a robot with no feelings, even though I would go home and cry every night. I know they were trying to be kind but it made it so much worse.
"You're going to die tomorrow, Lord Bolton. Sleep well."
I think many people also look for something to make what happened to someone else make sense to them, or to find something that sanitizes it and wraps it up nicely to let them put some distance between the person's death and them, if you know what I mean. And so many people just don't know what to say that they wind up saying something stupid. In the case of the poem, you can see it comforts a lot of people to think about the little kids in heaven. I imagine the parents and families are in such a fog of grief at this point that they don't care or notice this type of bullshit.Originally Posted by faithanne;2889332[B
For myself, I prefer to be outraged, rather than comforted, at this point.
Grammar: The difference between knowing your shit and knowing you're shit.
People say stupid things because they don't know what to say. We faced a stark unexpected tragedy and some friends of ours came over & just cried with us. They said nothing, just cried. Sometimes words are not needed.
My darling Cousin lost her two year old and always says you don't get over it, you just get through it. That was over 30 years ago, yet seems like last week.
I didn't start out to collect diamonds, but somehow they just kept piling up.-Mae West
CNN is showing live coverage of the memorial service. They are ringing the bell for each child. My heart...
No bells for the adults?
"The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge."
-- Stephen Hawking
This year, my SIL had a very healthy baby boy. She is ecstatic. I never knew she could be so happy.
I'm open to everything. When you start to criticise the times you live in, your time is over. - Karl Lagerfeld
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