I agree and I did previously post that I was spanked and such. However, I dont consider what happened to me to be abuse in any form.
I have never cowered in fear of my Dad, but I never offered to go first for spankings either. I loved and respected my father and still do. That is just the way he chose to discipline us.
One of the funniest moments we still discuss is when it was time for spankings, and trust me, I had it coming and knew it. I put on every pair of underwear I owned. He started spanking and I could not stop laughing. He realized my brilliant idea and was laughing so hard we all got out of punishment that night.
I am not tying to minimize what has happened to others by any means, I just wanted to justify why I commented the way I did and how it affected me personally.