Breast reduction surgery

**effie2** · May 17th, 2011, 08:21 AM

I can totally understand you,Lynnie,a shitload of work and nobody but you to do it,kids cant wait for you to get better you need to look after them.You feel powerless and weak and you hate it.
BUT,you must find a way to get help and slow down.There is no other way,we cant help you,I wish I could .Get into your stuborn head you are NOT to pretend you are fine.You had a major surgery and whether you like it or not,you need time to be your old self.
Your body is protesting,you have to listen.If you take the warnings seriously,you ll get some help and you ll get better.If you dont,there will be a price to pay.I hope i scared you into action.

**LynnieD** · May 17th, 2011, 05:10 PM

As usual, you are all correct. And I thank you for the concern and well wishes.

I went to the surgeon today. I am fairly certain he will be VERY happy to see me go, once this is all said and done. He wasn't super impressed w/the pulling of the stitches...he even said 'that's not so bad'. So, I guess that made me feel semi better. He did a little patch work and put a weird bandage on part of it and sent me on my way. Told me to knock it off, whatever I was doing---mentally and physically. Because I am obviously just a complete mental case at this point and he knows it. The whole nausea/vomiting thing is basically all in my head. It only comes up when I am upset/crying/worried/anxious about things and BOOM--the puking starts. Otherwise, fine (with the exception of last Friday night--that was out of NO WHERE and right after surgery). I am allowing myself to get upset about the dumbest shit and just hurting myself as a result. I am completely at fault for that.

However, I failed to mention that my husband is going to NYC this week (we live 4-5 hrs away from NYC and he cannot just fly home for me) and my In Laws, work full time. They were very helpful the first few days, but then once every settles down, everyone seems to scatter--everyone. I cannot make people take time off from work to help me out---they are just not willing to do that. I've talked about this previously......

And as far as my family goes, everyone lives 2 hrs away. And my two brothers, who were so supportive of me, have not called me...texted me...emailed me....nothing. NOT ONCE since my surgery. Nice huh? Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!

So, I am doing very little and trying to just go with the flow of it all.

AND, I am having my very first glass of vodka in over 3 wk's. A very fine one too--Espresso Vodka. REALLY GOOD. This helps too. Won't lie.

But appreciate everyone's input and just listening, and even kicking my ass. I need it.

**AliceInWonderland** · May 17th, 2011, 05:42 PM

im sorry about your brothers Lynnie, You can hash that out with them when you're feeling better - but yeah, you have to take it easy or you'll fuck up not only yourself but your surgery healing too

**Laurent** · May 17th, 2011, 06:21 PM

Oh, Lynnie, I so wish I could help you in some way. I just want to kick the pure shit out of your in-laws, smack your hubs, and yell at your brothers. I'm sorry you're dealing with this shit.

**Brookie** · May 17th, 2011, 06:26 PM

Lynnie - thinking about you tonight in Detroit and wishing you all the best. I can taste that Espresso vodka from here!!

xoxo

**gas_chick** · May 18th, 2011, 11:20 AM

So hope that this is all behind you soon. I know people work full time etc but when your family needs help people need to step up. So sorry you are not getting this help. Keep on taking it as easy as you can and know that soon you'll be able to look back and maybe snicker.

**Mel1973** · May 18th, 2011, 12:44 PM

Oh, Lynnie! I just came to catch up and hoping for some good news. I'm sorry you're having a rough time of it. I hope the vodka helped!

**Novice** · May 18th, 2011, 01:35 PM

Lynnie baby, get some microwave meals (get the boy to put the shopping in the car & take SMALL loads in lots of journeys to get it in. Your girls can help taking 1 or 2 things too at the same time.

Fuck the cleaning, fuck the laundry, get the girls to help look after themselves where possible. NO lifting them in & out off the bath! Do you have a walk in shower they can use?
During the day you need to be the mom off Married With Children, watch cartoons with your kids, play board games with them, when they're in school, lie on the sofa watch Maury & eat bonbons!

Oh! Bang on a neighbours door & get them to help you being in the shopping! They'll help. If nec wait until they're home from work/school/etc the shopping won't hurt (don't buy anything frozen obviously! )

ETA: get your decorator on & tell me what to do with my kitchen since no-one else has posted in my thread!
Pulled stitches mean you're doing too much! Please try to find a way to do less!

**Beeyotch** · May 18th, 2011, 01:49 PM

Aw Lynnie, I hate you're having a rough time of it. I wish I lived close by so I could help you too.

I'd do it in a heartbeat and accept payment in vodka.

**Belt Up** · May 20th, 2011, 07:39 PM

Surgery is never a picnic but you're really going through it Lynnie, I feel for you.

BUT, it's really going to be worth it in the long run, easy to say I know when your in the middle of this shit. Try and picture all the gorgeous outfits you'll be able to invest in, you'll be able to rock so much cool stuff...unlike Sophia Vulgara

ETA: Your pain meds are probably making you feel shite too - they made me constipated, nauseous and sleepy.
Not sure if it's relevent but when I had my snout chopped, surgeon recommended Bromelain supplements to aid healing, it's basically pineapple enzyme...maybe make some cocktails with the fresh stuff instead?

**LynnieD** · May 22nd, 2011, 07:16 PM

Feeling a heck of a lot better everyone. Had a good weekend, no pulling of stitches and felt NORMAL!!!! Still uncomfortable overall, but certainly nothing horrible, so its getting much better and I am have already worn a few shirts that I could have NEVER worn previously. I kept a few from when I have in my 20's....stupid. But glad I did. Just dumb t-shirts and stuff. But its kind of satisfying being able to finally wear them!

Thanks again....you have all been the BEST!!!! Wish I could hug and smooch each of you personally! xoxo

**sprynkles** · May 22nd, 2011, 07:54 PM

Glad you are doing better sweetie. Betcha can't wait to go on a shopping spree!

**AliceInWonderland** · May 22nd, 2011, 09:01 PM

awww lynnie im so glad my friend is doing a little better

**Laurent** · May 22nd, 2011, 09:04 PM

I'm glad your days are looking brighter finally, Lynnie. *gentle hugs*

**t13nif** · May 22nd, 2011, 10:16 PM

Originally Posted by LynnieD

Feeling a heck of a lot better everyone. Had a good weekend, no pulling of stitches and felt NORMAL!!!! Still uncomfortable overall, but certainly nothing horrible, so its getting much better and I am have already worn a few shirts that I could have NEVER worn previously. I kept a few from when I have in my 20's....stupid. But glad I did. Just dumb t-shirts and stuff. But its kind of satisfying being able to finally wear them!

Thanks again....you have all been the BEST!!!! Wish I could hug and smooch each of you personally! xoxo

Wahoo!! Now you can look forward to those cute summer dresses and shirts!