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Originally Posted by carrie2008
Well if he wasn't there most of the time why not let the name be up to her...
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Why not let the name be up to her, period? The idea that a child having his father's name is his "birthright" any more than carrying the name of the family of the mother (perhaps her name is just as prestigious to her and her family, with the Moynahans having a rich historical background) goes right back to the days when children of unmarried parents were seen as "bastards" and therby "lesser-thans".
She carried and birthed this baby, in the process getting to know and bonding with him and preparing for how life with him on a daily basis will forever after be. The male in this scenario was physically and emotionally
mostly (if not entirely) uninvolved after sperm donation and already in the process of living a separate life that did not include either of them before the child was much more than a cluster of cells.
The only difference now is that since the child is here, he will have an opportunity (if he wishes, as he hasn't done so yet) to be involved with and have a relationship with this kid without having to be involved with her beyond being co-parents. Most likely she will have primary custody and he will do the parttime dad thing at BEST. Possibly he'll be more involved, if asked to pony up with a large number financially (funny how often money and spitefulness of having to fork it over or sometimes just "sticking it to the ex" are often good motivators to get men to be more involved with their kids). Possibly he'll talk a good game and end up being less involved (especially after he marries and has kids with another).
So....with all these factors, why the fuck shouldn't the child be a Moynahan? By default he already is and will continue to be a Moynahan to a much greater extent than he is or ever will be a Brady.
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Originally Posted by Bellatheball
If he was that worried about his kid having his last name, maybe he should have stuck with the mother of his child.
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Thank you. This is the point behind what I took a lot of blabbing to just say.
