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Originally Posted by dragonlady
Come on now, why can't two guys be close without having to deal with people questioning their sexuality? This is probably why so many men are afraid to even accidentally brush their hands together for fear of being called gay.
And what's wrong with getting upset over gay rumors if you're not gay? Some people actually do feel pretty strongly about it and don't want to be called gay if they're not. That doesn't mean that they must be gay because they're protesting it too much.
Sorry, I don't mean to rant, but I've been labeled a lesbian by a bunch of people (including some ignorant cousins) because I've been seen with a guy before (so that means I must be secretly stashing a GF somewhere, I guess; quite honestly I just think guys and the whole idea of sex is GROSS), because I don't dress or act feminine and because I play a sport other than tennis or bikini beach volleyball. It bothers me because it's not true, number one, and also because I personally don't agree with the idea of homosexuality. No that doesn't mean I hate gay people or am discriminatory. Quite honestly if someone else is gay then I really don't care, it's not my business; I'm sure people think there are plenty of things wrong with how I live my life, but that doesn't make them discriminatory against me or "phobic" about whatever it is I'm doing.
Seriously, why all this "oh they're close, they must be gay" or "oh they deny it so they must be hiding something?"
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Because it's gossip and that's what people do -- they have nothing better to do than to question celebrities sexuality or every motive. I personally think it's ridiculous, but I've learned to take it in ease and have fun with it rather than be upset over the stupidity of some people's comments. I can't stand it when people -- who obviously do not know the celebs personally -- assume they are something because of the way they acted in an interview, or because of some BI, or gossip column, or because of a t-shirt they wore etc. It's just stupid stereotyping and that has always bugged me cause it's just downright stupid to do, BUT, this is a gossip board and that's what people do. It can be quite fun (which is why I am still here) so I prefer to joke around with others rather than try to get all defensive.
I personally have absolutely nothing wrong with homosexuality and have said it time and time again. I also would not give a damn if someone thought I was a lesbian because I know the truth. In
my experience, all of the closeted people I have known were very uncomfortable with being questioned, whereas, the straight people I knew usually didn't give a damn (like me). I believe that is the reason why most people assume that if someone gets upset over a "rumor" then they must be closeted because
normally if you have nothing to hide, a stupid nobody assuming you're gay would not bother you.
Of course, I'm sure there are straight people who just don't like to be questioned (most of them are homophobes) but most people here speak out of generality. Generally, people who are closeted ARE the ones who get the most upset about the questions. Now when it comes to the "denying" thing, I don't think that means they're gay because when celebs are hounded they have to answer the question -- that's different. I prefer to look at the reaction to the question, or their overall behavior and not just the "denial" because they have to say something, otherwise it starts a whole new slew of rumors because they "didn't answer." That's a different issue and like I said, I personally don't do that, but I can see where you're coming from when you mention it.