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Originally Posted by Icepik
This is what I am saying..
I have a cousin who is gay. He exhibits no signs of being gay - there is absolutely no gay vibe about him. I only know because he trusted me with that information.
We are of strict, Italian, Roman Catholic descent. At family gatherings, he comes with a girl. He talks about marriage and wanting kids. He's your typical GUY. However, when he's not around his family and goes back to Toronto, he's the man he truly is.
Its sad in a way, but he doesn't make it out like that. Some people can't accept homosexuality. He continues to go to church and continues to pretend he's straight. All he wants is to be left alone in his own private life.
He doesn't have the paparazzi following him, trying to 'out' him... I cant even imagine how devastating that would be. If and when he wants to come out is when he should. If a gay man doesn't want to..no one should make him. He's not doing anyone any harm.
John Travolta obviously does not want to come out of that closet; no one should do it for him. Even if his religion is crackpot to us.. its not to him. That is what is important here. What he believes in, not what we believe in.
This is obviously just my opinion.
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Your cousin is perpetrating a private and public fraud. It is lying and deceitful for him to pretend to be straight around family..it denigrates him and those family members who 'supposedly' love him. There is no way he can be living this 'double life' and be really happy unless he is some sort of sociopath. He lives the way he does because he is forced to. You have no idea of the emotional toll that 'pretending to be straight' has on gay people. You only know what he chooses to tell you. To any reasonable observer, this man is doing what he is doing because he has no choice given that he believes that neither his family, nor his church, would accept him for the person he truly is. He is simply choosing one painful path over another-choosing the pain of living a lie around his family, to the pain of being who he really is and loosing the love and respect of his family and his church. Open your eyes!
And as for Travolta..he believes in, gives money to, and supports a 'religion' that is actively harmful to gay people. He would be worthy of scorn for this regardless of his own sexuality. Given his sexuality, he is a hypocrite, a liar, and is most reprehensible for his actions that support discrimination against other gay people. What he believes in is the important thing-and what he believes in is giving money and support to the discrimination against gay people..and us gays have every right to bust his ass for doing it.