Well, I can add that as an adoptee, if I knew my birth mother did not want to be found or contacted by me, then that would be the end of it. For one, I'd understand and respect her choice, and two, why would I want to meet her if she didn't want to meet me? I don't even know that I do want to meet her - I'm certainly taking my time with it at any rate, and that's with knowing her last name.
As it stands, I'm not a terribly sentimental person and when I do entertain the thought of meeting my birth mom (or dad) tears and hugs and sentiment don't enter into it at all. I just can't imagine feeling that way about a total stranger. I'm an extremely curious person, though, and what does intrigue me is the thought of seeing a resemblance or learning about other similarities or shared traits.
The interest kind of ends there, though. I already have two parents, I don't want or need any more. And my curiosity certainly shouldn't be enough to trump her right to privacy.
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