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Originally Posted by sluce
Actually, birthparents have never been promised their identify would never be known. In some states they were told the original birth cert would be sealed and not released. However, the names of the birth parents exists on many other documents that are not sealed. Once an adoptee knows where to look the identity is right there - legally.
I also ask you to consider the fact that an agreement was made that will impact the adoptees life without their consent. The adoptive parents and birthparents may make a deal but the adoptee was not given a voice and they are the party most impacted. It as if you are saying that when a person is pregnant they can sign a contract with another adult stating that their child will have to marry the other person. The child has no say but would be expected to be bound by the agreement made by the adults before their birth. Would that be fair? Adoption is supposed to be based on the best interest of the child - not the adults.
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That analogy doesn't work. I'm not familiar with the US legal system-do they forbid abusive/excessive clauses (I hope I'm translating the term right)? Because a contract forcing someone to enter into a contract/legal state in adulthood would fall under that. This is not about forcing the adult adoptee to alter his situation, it's merely protecting the info of the birth mother.
And while I sympathise would the plight of adoptees searching for their birth parents, I think the birthmother's right to privacy is more important. When you give up a child for adoption you sever all claims/connection to it, why wouldn't the opposite be true? I think this is a terribly difficult enough decision for women and girls without the system deciding to pull the rug from under them.