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Originally Posted by sluce
The laws have chaned in several states to allow open records and the rate of adoption did not change. Very, very few women chose adotion today and want secrecy. Relinquishing a child is no longer viewed as a shameful dirty secret that must be kept, thank God. Most placements involve a level of openness. The archaic practices have mostly been retired and adoptees are being given the same rights and consideration as non adopted people.
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i don't think women necessarily want privacy because of shame or because they view it as a dirty secret.
speaking for myself, i know if i gave up a child for adoption, the only way i could do it was if it was final and closed and that would be the last i would hear of it. of course i imagine you would always wonder and it can't be an easy decision, but to me, you either give your child up for adoption or you choose to remain in its life. it's one or the other, you can't give it up thinking you'll see him/her again because then you don't really have closure.
again, i'm just speaking for myself and in my case, if adoption meant the kid has a right to know who i am when it's older and i don't have a say in that, i'd get an abortion, no question about it.