Quote:
Originally Posted by sluce
That usually happens because they have been living the lie and are now afraid of having to deal with it.
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by sluce
Word in the industry is that when the facts come out the case will not look so cut and dry.
|
even if the birth mother has been 'living the lie' as you say and never told anyone about the pregnancy and adoption, or lied about being raped, it doesn't give the agency the right to disclose her name and location to the adopted kid. it doesn't give them the right to violate their privacy. it is the woman's absolute right to never see or hear from that kid again if she doesn't want to, and that should be respected. it sucks for the kid, and i'm glad that in most cases, the birth mother does want to see the kid and know he/she is alright, but it should always be the birth mother who decides if she wants to be contacted. the adopted kid does not have the right to know who the birth parents are. it sucks for the kid, and maybe that explains why these kids have higher suicide rates, depression, whatever but that doesn't change the facts.
if the law changes and starts to favour the child's rights, all that is going to do is deter women from adoption. who wouldn't get an abortion if all you want is to have this unwanted pregnancy over with? if it turns out this can come back and haunt you years later, why bother carrying the pregnancy to term?