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Originally Posted by MontanaMama
I'd say that's a suit with merit. I am all for adoption. And I'm all for facilitating reunions, but for god's sake, they cannot ambush bio parents. That's just flat out cruel. She had no obligation to reply to the inquiry - a closed adoption means it stays closed and sealed until BOTH parties voluntarily seek info about the other.
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Originally Posted by crumpet
The term 'real mother/father' really offends me. I don't like to hear adoptees refer to their bio dna donors that way. The people who actually raised you are your only parents, period. I also hate these 'Locator' reality shows that romanticize these reunions. It's laughable to me when someone comes running up to the bio mother they have never met in their 45 yrs on this earth crying and saying "I love you". That's a joke, thinking you love someone you don't even know. You love what they represent to you. I only hope that adoptees are repsectful towards their 'real' parents who raised them when they go about seeking these reunions.
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I agree with both of these points.
And while everyone is saying how "tragic" it is for the girl who wanted to find her biological mother, I just don't feel that much particular sympathy for her. I don't understand why someone would think that their bio mother/father would greet them with open arms or think that they are obligated to meet them. I mean, I just find it very rude and selfish to show up on her doorstep and expect the best. Couldn't she at least put in a phone call to ascertain first if she even wanted to be contacted, if it was okay to just show up in her life? I don't know, I just feel for this poor bio mom way more than her kid.
I wonder if her daughter looked like her rapist at all, if it just triggered some terrible memory. Poor woman.