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Originally Posted by McJag
ITA. The one that rocked them,bathed them,got up with ear aches & suffered over every hangnail-that is the true mother or father. Doesn't matter if that child was home made or store bought. Once you get your hands on that precious,he or she is all yours-right on the spot. For someone to go looking for their "real parents" is short sighted. I always wonder how the parents who raised that child feels.
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As someone who hopes to be raising adopted/fostered children, I'm not sure that I feel that its wrong (or whatever) for the adopted child to search out their bio-parents.
We have a lot of adoptions in out family, both in and out. I can understand that a person may have a lot of questions about a dna-linked family. Why, who, what, how... etc. If that were my adopted child, I would want to support that in a way that clearly meant "we still love you and always will but understand your need". We'd prefer older children so I don't think that it'll have so much 'mistique" to it. Adopting older children might mean that these children are actually removed from their parents for their own good - or it might be an "open" adoption; we won't know til it happens.
However, this agency completely violated this woman's right to privacy. As I said we have a number of adoptions & that includes someone that gave up a baby. Not everyone in that person's new family knows about that and if the "child" turned up it would cause all sorts of issues.
Its a difficult situation where all needs need to be balanced, and sometimes that means that someone gets hurt....