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Originally Posted by celeb_2006
I'm of the belief that a child has a moral obligation to be loyal to the one that raised them, not their biological by default. These kids need to stop dreaming of these 'reality show' happy endings where people reunite after years apart.
Ultimately how do you think the parents that raised the adoptee feels when the child they raised as their own goes off on their happy little crusade to find biological? I understand we are all curious in life, and knowing that you are adopted I'm sure would pique anyone's interest. However, you need to be mature about it and take the whole picture into account, not be reckless about it.
I've mentioned this before multiple times but I'll never forget when NBA player Shaquille O'Neal first came on the scene as a pro and became a superstar. One day his biological father, who did not raise him, was on a talk show talking about Shaq and how he was proud of him and all that, trying to 'claim' him. Shaq was like, hell naw, he considered the man that raised him to be his real dad (and came out with a rap song called 'biological didn't bother.'). Now THAT is integrity and loyalty.
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ITA. The one that rocked them,bathed them,got up with ear aches & suffered over every hangnail-that is the true mother or father. Doesn't matter if that child was home made or store bought. Once you get your hands on that precious,he or she is all yours-right on the spot. For someone to go looking for their "real parents" is short sighted. I always wonder how the parents who raised that child feels.